Bumped into a friend from high school this weekend whom I hadn't seen in 3 or 4 years, and she congratulated me on my engagement (we're FB friends) and I said 'congrats on your wedding! how is married life?!'
"Oh, well, it's great, but we're actually not married"
"Oh my mistake, I thought I saw a bunch of pics on your FB, but I must be confused!"
"Oh no, we did have a wedding, but looking back I didn't love my dress, and I only had 14 months to plan, so when I found out that there was an issue with our marriage license, and we weren't actually legally married yet, I was so relieved! So I decided to have another wedding, the right way."
I mentioned that something had happened with my parents' license (someone lost it) so it was never filed, and they just had to go see the judge who married them- he did the 'ceremony' in the middle of a murder trial- ha!- in the middle of the day.
She then said she knew that was a simpler option, but that she really feels she deserves a 'real wedding'. And that she was 'going to do it right' this time- and implied that that meant inviting more people and that I 'should come and invite friends!'
Maybe the wedding wasn't what she wanted, but why have another?? I left and just said "ya, if I'm in town I'll try and swing by your party"
"Ok great, I'll send a save the date, that has the wedding website on it with all the details!! I'd love to have you enjoy my special day!"
I reallllly wanted to say "bummer, if only you'd invited me to your wedding, and not your 2+ years later party!" but I didn't (mostly because I couldn't think of such a witty response after being stunned by her 'wedding plans').
Out of curiosity, I went on her facebook and looked through some of the 300+ professional pics she posted of her wedding, which she now titles "Our rehearsal wedding"- Looks like there were 200+ people, and it was beautiful and at a very, very nice venue.
I'm sorta thinking she invited me (we're not close) and told me to 'bring friends' because everyone who went to her 'original' wedding aren't coming to whatever you want to call this. Is it a PPD if you already had a full on wedding, not a secret elopement or something? Regardless, I just couldn't believe what she was saying, so thought I'd share with you ladies!
(Not looking for advice or anything, it'll probably be another few years before I see her again, and I won't be in town that weekend, so not going to her party- just wanted to share a crazy story!)