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RachelR1977+RB
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being told where to register (rant)
So, I'm all for a bridal registry - mostly for the extra perk of most places giving you a discount on the stuff that wasn't bought from your list - but I also know it makes buying a gift SO much easier if there's a wide range of stuff on your registry.
keeping that in mind, i've got like 190 items on a registry at Macy's. Prices range from $5 to $350 (that's the kitchenaid that i don't expect anybody to get for me but of COURSE i'd love it if they did). I feel like there's a wide enough range of gifts that if people want to get a ten dollar gift (not that i'm expecting ANY gifts of course, but I know there will be people looking for stuff to get) that's totally doable.
.... but here's the kicker. at thanksgiving dinner with my future in-laws they asked where I was registered. the look of horror when i told them macys was SO unexpected. the majority of the family lives in the midwest. everybody has a macys. but I guess the closest one to the grandmother is a 45 minute drive away. yes, that's not just around the corner. but this is a woman who A) lives in a VERY small town and pretty much EVERYTHING is an hour away and 2) Drives to SCarolina and Florida on a regular basis.
as we were getting ready to leave, i was asked (in that manner that you know you're really being TOLD) to register at bed bath and beyond. ok seriously? my showers arent until january and my wedding is in MARCH. certainly you could order something from macy's online if you were going to buy a gift and then have it shipped. or drive the 45 minutes to macy's at some point in those months.
who tells people WHERE to register? ugh.
but, because I am a total pushover, i registered us for some stuff at BB&B. snow removal types of things and vacuums and a cooler and a picnic basket. and that was pretty much it. i don't ever shop at BB&B, so why would i have things we'd need to register for from there?
i realize i'm being a brat about this, but i needed to vent and rant to someone not in my family.
has this ever happened to anyone else? being told where to register? it seems weird.
keeping that in mind, i've got like 190 items on a registry at Macy's. Prices range from $5 to $350 (that's the kitchenaid that i don't expect anybody to get for me but of COURSE i'd love it if they did). I feel like there's a wide enough range of gifts that if people want to get a ten dollar gift (not that i'm expecting ANY gifts of course, but I know there will be people looking for stuff to get) that's totally doable.
.... but here's the kicker. at thanksgiving dinner with my future in-laws they asked where I was registered. the look of horror when i told them macys was SO unexpected. the majority of the family lives in the midwest. everybody has a macys. but I guess the closest one to the grandmother is a 45 minute drive away. yes, that's not just around the corner. but this is a woman who A) lives in a VERY small town and pretty much EVERYTHING is an hour away and 2) Drives to SCarolina and Florida on a regular basis.
as we were getting ready to leave, i was asked (in that manner that you know you're really being TOLD) to register at bed bath and beyond. ok seriously? my showers arent until january and my wedding is in MARCH. certainly you could order something from macy's online if you were going to buy a gift and then have it shipped. or drive the 45 minutes to macy's at some point in those months.
who tells people WHERE to register? ugh.
but, because I am a total pushover, i registered us for some stuff at BB&B. snow removal types of things and vacuums and a cooler and a picnic basket. and that was pretty much it. i don't ever shop at BB&B, so why would i have things we'd need to register for from there?
i realize i'm being a brat about this, but i needed to vent and rant to someone not in my family.
has this ever happened to anyone else? being told where to register? it seems weird.
.... excuse me while i go get those pesky kids off my lawn. 
sincerely,
THE OLD
sincerely,
THE OLD
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Re: being told where to register (rant)
That said, I'm a fan of multiple registries. Especially when people live all over the place. The closest Macy's to me is 4 hours away. The closest BB&B is 40 minutes. I shop at BB&B more often because (1) it's closer and (2) I always have a 20% coupon.
Which brings me to another point on why I like multiple registries, people typically have alliances to certain stores, which often give them bigger discounts. Actually I can't even tell you the last time I was in a Macy's. My sister loves Macy's (card holder) and is forever getting coupons and/or points and stuff. I do not get any of that stuff. But I have a BB&B coupon texted to me all the time. Plus the ones you get in the mail. If you registered on Amazon I would benefit from the free shipping because I have Amazon Prime.
So again, I do not like the way they went about it, I think it's a great idea to have a registry from different stores.
But for anyone to express horror that you didn't register, or didn't register at a specific store, and demands that you do so, is out of line.
That said, I myself probably wouldn't consider it a hill worth dying on unless I really don't like the store or unless the relatives were really demanding and accusatory about it.
I'm thinking it's about the coupons as well. The same product is 20% cheaper at BB than Macy's.
I also think that even if there is not a ton on that registry, people know you are open about that store. I had an aunt call and tell me to remove something from my registry because she had found it at a different store for a better price.
I got a bit of shit from a few family members of H's because I didn't register in a store that exists in his hometown. Now, his hometown doesn't even have a Target so my options were Walmart, KMart, Herberger's (which we don't have here), and JC Penney (which in hindsight we could have done but I felt like their selection was really limited).
I figure my choices all offered online ordering, or if that wouldn't work, they could just gift whatever if they wanted. People either gave us cash, or in the case of his grandma and great aunt, they just gifted us whatever... his grandma gave some plastic storage containers (which are always useful) and these hideous pillows that now belong to the dog (he loves pillows). His aunt actually gave us some really nice Ralph Lauren towels.
Registries were only for convenience so people knew what colors you liked and you wouldn't get 5 toasters. To expect that people can only want gifts in YOUR (general you) price range and preferred store is obnoxious. Registries aren't required, gifts aren't required, cash is a great gift, as is a hand-knitted blanket or silver picture frame or something.
Geez-louise.
We only registered for like, 30 things, and at Crate & Barrel. Sorrynotsorry. We got mostly cash.
Still, we did end up registering at both BB&B and Macy's because one or the other was convenient to the majority of our guests. I found pretty much all the same things at both stores (even the same china patterns). We tried to register for things at whichever was regularly priced cheaper and ended up with a pretty good split.
I find Macy's to be the better deal with sales and coupons, I'm not a fan of BBB, I find there prices to be much higher since things rarely go on sale.
I didn't register. Its not required, so no one should feel justified telling you to register at additional stores.
@KnotRiley, could you please close this zombie thread?
(You do know that you are absolutely begging to be trolled, right? If you wanted to just communicate that to me, you could have private messaged me, which would have been a gracious way to go about it. Or if you have to be public about it, be supportive, but educational. Instead, you publicly told me off for violating a non-written rule of the hive, which makes it feel like it's less about helping, and more about exerting pressure and influence.)
anyone else who didn't notice the date and would otherwise comment. A private message does not benefit the community at large.