Dear Prudence,
Before my boyfriend of three years and I moved in together, I was invited to the wedding of a good friend. The wedding invitation specifically said that since it was an intimate affair (fewer than 50 people), plus-ones could not be included. While I was a little miffed that I couldn’t bring my boyfriend, I let it slide. Now, I’ve just received a save-the-date for another friend’s wedding. I feel that couples should be invited as a unit, especially if they are cohabiting. If the invitation comes, and it does not mention a plus-one, should I make clear why I will not be attending? Or should I ask about bringing a guest?