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Need to rant about my mother

It's not possible to jump through my computer and smack my mother, right?  I haven't seen the woman since August of 2005, but we still talk sporadically on facebook.  It's rare that seeing a message from her doesn't make me angry or sad.
Today's treat was: "Even though you ignore her, your great grandmother is in the hospital. A blood clot went to her brain."
I'm sorry my great grandmother is sick.  She's 104, so it's really not unexpected for her to get sick.  However, that whole side of the family has never been part of my life.  Ever.  I can't remember the last time I spoke to any of them on the phone, if ever. I talk to my grandmother on facebook occassionally.  Same with my cousin and uncle.  And by occasionally I mean maybe every 5-6 months.  
My mother left the country in 2005, hasn't been back since, and has no plans to return.  She changed her email address without telling me, doesn't keep me up to date on my little sister's life (she's medically fragile and not able to contact me on her own...she's 12).  I don't have a phone number or address for them.  My most recent message from her from before Sunday was in January.  But I ignore her family.  STFU mom.  I'm just done.
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Re: Need to rant about my mother

  • :( I'm sorry. It sucks to have to deal with crazy ass relatives.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_need-to-rant-about-my-mother?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:d86dab76-1b72-4d26-8100-28890cf147efPost:de2ae603-f1f4-403b-978b-95f18ec6d5df">Re: Need to rant about my mother</a>:
    [QUOTE]:( I'm sorry. It sucks to have to deal with crazy ass relatives.
    Posted by ZombieNates[/QUOTE]
    Yeah, I just read your post.  Crazy relatives suck.  At least mine isn't trying to crash my honeymoon?   <----brightside of my sad/angry, not making fun of you
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  • haha, I get it. Besides if I didn't laugh about it, I would cuttabitch.
  • I'd be right there helping you.  I'm just glad my FI's family is sane and their only craziness is the fun kind.
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  • So where does your mom live, if you don't mind me asking.  I'm always curious about international moves.
  • Nepal.  Originally it was India, then at some point she moved.  
    She just sent me this long message on fb about why she moved and how I shouldn't be angry with her cause she had good reasons.  I wrote back telling her that her moving isn't why I'm angry.  It's that she disappeared from my life.  It can take months for her to respond to messages, if she does at all.  I don't have her phone number, so calling is out.  She's just not in my life anymore, and that hurts.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_need-to-rant-about-my-mother?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:d86dab76-1b72-4d26-8100-28890cf147efPost:1d627885-2e30-4ab1-8590-b6ef0742ee1d">Re: Need to rant about my mother</a>:
    [QUOTE]Nepal.  Originally it was India, then at some point she moved.   She just sent me this long message on fb about why she moved and how I shouldn't be angry with her cause she had good reasons.  I wrote back telling her that her moving isn't why I'm angry. <strong> It's that she disappeared from my life.  It can take months for her to respond to messages, if she does at all.  I don't have her phone number, so calling is out.  She's just not in my life anymore, and that hurts.</strong>
    Posted by Starqueg[/QUOTE]
    That's understandable.  Were you closer before all of this?
  • We were close, but it was more codependency than actual closeness.  I think I'm doing a good job at remembering all the good times and forgetting how messed up my childhood was in some ways.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_need-to-rant-about-my-mother?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:d86dab76-1b72-4d26-8100-28890cf147efPost:658bef5c-6f33-49e7-b569-ac2da7fe471b">Re: Need to rant about my mother</a>:
    [QUOTE]We were close, but it was more codependency than actual closeness. <strong> I think I'm doing a good job at remembering all the good times and forgetting how messed up my childhood was in some ways.
    </strong>Posted by Starqueg[/QUOTE]

    Sometimes I think we have to do this to have anything related to a normal adult life.

    I'm sorry you're going through this.
    Lizzie
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