Granddaughter's mom was told (not asked) that she would be in the wedding 8 months before wedding. (Granddaughter's dad was best man and brother of the groom).
Fast forward until 2 weeks before wedding: both myself and the best man were told at what time to be at the rehearsal but nothing was said about my granddaughter attending. At the rehearsal 2 other children were in the wedding but they never said anything to us about my granddaughter not being included. Neither of us said anything at the time as we didn't want to ruin their wedding.
It has now been over 9 months and neither of my son's have talked about what happened. My granddaughter and daughter-in-law did attend the wedding. The groom did say that they decided that my granddaughter (3 years old) was to shy and they were afraid she wouldn't walk down the aisle. But they never let any of us know this beforehand. My daughter-in-law does not want anything to do with the new wife because of this and she would like an apology for what they did. The groom doesn't think they did anything wrong and is upset because of the way my granddaughter's mother is treating his new wife.
Has anyone had a similar situation and if so how did you handle it? Before this we were a somewhat close family but not now.