I have been lurking on the boards for a while and learning a lot! So when an etiquette-related issue was brought up by a friend of mine, I tried to steer her in the right direction, but I may have overstepped...
My friend is getting married in late April of this year, a week before me. A few days ago, she mentioned that her health insurance just ran out and she needed to find a new one before the grace period ended. She had three perfectly fine options, but seemed to have an excuse as to why none of them would work. Then she said that the most viable option would be to head to the courthouse and marry her FI now to get on his insurance. Then they would have their wedding in April (with no changes to the original plan- white ballgown, first dance, etc.). Well, alarm bells went off in my head from what I learned here, and I think what came out of my mouth was actually, "Noooooo!" I explained in what I thought was a nice way that she could not do that because I wanted to see her get married, as I'm sure her family would as well, and if she went through with this plan we would miss it. Her response: "Then we'll keep it a secret." I told her that was worse, she shouldn't lie, and I would help her find a way to get insurance and have her wedding. And I did, and her problem is solved. She seemed miffed though. I'm sure she'll get over it, because it worked out, but did I stick my nose where it didn't belong? Could I have handled it better? I'm not a bridesmaid but we are close friends, we text every day and call each other/see each other fairly often. She has been making other etiquette blunders that I honestly wouldn't have known if I hadn't been lurking here for so long, but I don't want to come off as obnoxious and continually correct her, so I usually don't say anything. What would you do?