So my parents have decided they want to be involved in FI's and my wedding...when it's now 5 months away. Ok, cool, thanks for the added funds but we have pretty much EVERYTHING booked/scheduled/chosen etc. I explained this to them saying we have every intention of funding 100% of the wedding and since there had been very much disinterest on their part from day 1, we took it upon ourselves to venue/vendor shop and book/put deposits down. They agreed to whatever we have already booked and offered to pay the remainder of any costs for venue, DJ, photographer. FI and I talked it over and agreed to accept their offer, as we just bought a house and are going to settlement very soon. This is a weight off our shoulders, even though we had already made payment plans and arrangements with all vendors to keep ourselves from becoming flat broke. Awesome, thanks mom & dad.
Just before the holidays I met with my mom and sister to order her bridesmaid dress and my mom immediately starts in on how the DJ has over-billed and she's going to call him and she disagrees with how everything is progressing with this vendor. Whoa, what do you mean? I had a quote/receipt from when we put our deposit down of what was left to pay and kept each subsequent receipt so I would have an accurate log of costs. Mom continues with her rant about how she asked for a receipt and instead got a bill , and oh yeah, how my SISTER has requested a few songs to be added to the list of "must plays" and was told by the DJ he would check with me and FI before compiling a list of songs from others. Apparently this was unacceptable and my mom seems to think we should find someone else. I was in shock at what she was telling me and honestly didn't even hear anything after that point as I was trying to rush the purchase along so I could leave and begin damage control with our DJ.
Once I left the dress shop, I immediately got in touch with our DJ to apologize for any interaction he may have had with my lunatic of a mother. He was amazingly understanding and said he had not dealt with my mom, but instead with my dad who asked about the discrepancy in a very adult and pleasant way. THANK GOD. I then asked him to contact FI or me if any other questions arise rather than deal with my parents and he was completely professional and handled everything perfectly.
I talked to my dad over Christmas and he let me know that he is handling all interactions with all parties involved as he knows my mom loses her mind over the smallest things without actually finding out the whole truth. Between my sister and my mom, it's a huge surprise that my sister's wedding even happened at all.
I am so happy our vendors have been in this game long enough to handle these things with grace and professionalism!
End rant (sorry it's long!)