Hello,
I am looking for some feedback regarding inviting my fiancé's ex to my wedding. My fiancé and I both have children from previous relationships. Fiance doesn't have a great relationship with his ex, and they don't communicate much. However, his ex is very close to his family to the point where it has been a struggle for me to get close to his stepmother (who is the only mother figure in his life). Recently I was talking to her about getting a guest list for his side and she immediately asked if I would be inviting his daughters mother. When I said no she got upset and told me that is "part of her family" and she had already talked to her about coming to the wedding! Furthermore, she made it sound like his daughter wouldn't participate in the wedding if her mother wasn't there! I am upset and confused. In my heart, I do not want any ex's at my wedding, especially one I have no relationship with and she treats my fiancé like an incompetent father to begin with. But I am afraid of the further rift it will create with my future mother in law. Any suggestions?