Hi. I was raised Catholic and my fiancé was not, in fact, he is kind of anti-religion, but he's still spiritual in a way that is important to him.
I stopped going to mass a few years ago because I realized that I was going more to please my mother than actually wanting to go for myself.
We are getting married July 30th, 2016 and my mother assumes we are getting married in the church, or she refuses to go.
I do not want to go through pre-Cana because I just don't think it's for us, and my fiancé is pretty much refusing to do it because it is not what he believes in, and I am with him there. I also don't want him to be forced into a Catholic wedding if he doesn't believe in it, but we both really want my mom at our wedding.
Do you think a priest would preform the ceremony outside of the church of the bishop gave him permission? I have read that this sometimes happens.
If not, does anyone have any advice about what we could do to possibly meet somewhere in the middle and make my mom happy too? Like possibly getting married outside the church and then having our marriage blessed in the church? I have also read about this happening sometimes, and I know it's not a wedding and that it happens at a normal mass, but at this point I'm willing to do anything because it needs to be solved soon!