I am the youngest grandchild in a family of 20 adult cousins. I am 31, with my oldest cousin being 60. A lot of my cousins I am not as close to because of the age difference, but am close to their children. A lot of my second cousins cut their guest list easily but stopping at first cousins, but I am highly conflicted because I am close to half of my first cousins and half of my second cousins. One of my first cousins specifically is very dramatic and nobody (I mean NOBODY) in our family can stand her, but we come from a family that feels bad leaving anyone out. I however am sick of her causing drama and starting rumors over every family event and do not want her to ruin our special day. Our family is pretty close, so it's not something we could keep secret, especially since she lives with her parents who I want there. Do I really have to invite her? And if I do, do I need to personally contact her and tell her why? I know it'd be easier to just suck it up and invite her, but I really don't want her there. But is it wrong not to? Or is there some way I can do it without causing her to be even more dramatic?