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libby18belllibby18bell member
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So just curious on what you ladies think of our invitation wording or if you think we need to change the wording to include Nuptial Mass since we are having a full mass, but I want to lean on the side of as traditional as possible.

Mr John J. Smith
Mrs. Susan A. Smith (my parents are divorced but get along now, names too long for 1 line)
request the honour of your presence 
at the marriage of their daughter
Mary Catherine
to 
Derek Sanderson Jeter 
son of Mr. and Mrs. John T. Jeter
on Saturday, the twelfth of October
Two thousan thirteen
at two o'clock in the afternoon
Saint Joseph's Roman Catholic Church
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Re: invitation wording

  • lalaith50lalaith50 member
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    "at the Nuptial Mass in which __ will be united to ___ in the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony..." I guess I don't understand what you mean by "traditional wording?" Your Catholic guests might appreciate knowing in advance that it will be a Mass (for example so they can fast the full hour before Communion,) and most everyone will appreciate knowing that it will longer than a regular ceremony. A Catholic Mass is a different thing than a non-religious or non-sacramental ceremony, and so it has it's own "traditional" wording, although others might have other ideas about what that could be.
    Also, I would put "and" after your dad's name. 
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  • ootmother3ootmother3
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    1)   Mom's name goes first

    2) "and" indicates they are married so skip that
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  • Calypso1977Calypso1977 member
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    the Mass should be mentioned, IMO.
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  • SlothGoalsSlothGoals member
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    My invitations are going to read:

    The honour of your presence is requested
    at the Nuptial Mass uniting
    Kristbot
    and
    Kristbot's FI
    in the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony

    Date
    Time

    Church Name
    City, Province
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  • Calypso1977Calypso1977 member
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    the only probelm with taht wording is that the Mass isnt what unites you in marriage.  the mass is said in your honor.
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  • SlothGoalsSlothGoals member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_catholic-weddings_invitation-wording-13?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:615Discussion:bd694cb3-81e9-4134-b17c-dbba33c7fe2cPost:fe797bf3-9bd8-4c8c-b081-4b8c8cca6646">Re: invitation wording</a>:
    [QUOTE]the only probelm with taht wording is that the Mass isnt what unites you in marriage.  the mass is said in your honor.
    Posted by Calypso1977[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>I totally copied the wrong version, oops! That was from my first draft rather than my most recent one. This is actually what they're going to say:</div><div>
    </div><div>The honour of your presence is requested</div><div>at the Nuptial Mass in which</div><div>Krisbot</div><div>and</div><div>Kristbot's FI</div><div>will be united in the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony</div><div>
    </div><div>Date</div><div>Time</div><div>
    </div><div>Church</div><div>City, Province</div><div>
    </div><div>
    </div><div>Is that more correct?

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  • libby18belllibby18bell member
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    Kristbot, are you not referencing your parents?  Our parents are extremely important to both of us, so we want to make a point to make reference to them.  FI didn't like the wording of Nuptial Mass, not sure why but he didn't like it and said that a mass is somewhat a given since it's going to be at a Catholic church and our guests know both of us pretty well to know to expect that.  He did like the phrase Holy Matriomy though so not sure how to incorporate that.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_catholic-weddings_invitation-wording-13?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:615Discussion:bd694cb3-81e9-4134-b17c-dbba33c7fe2cPost:4bad6f9c-fc0a-4329-b112-80ec47576ab7">Re: invitation wording</a>:
    [QUOTE]Kristbot, are you not referencing your parents?  Our parents are extremely important to both of us, so we want to make a point to make reference to them.  FI didn't like the wording of Nuptial Mass, not sure why but he didn't like it and said that a mass is somewhat a given since it's going to be at a Catholic church and our guests know both of us pretty well to know to expect that.  He did like the phrase Holy Matriomy though so not sure how to incorporate that.
    Posted by libby18bell[/QUOTE]

    <div>No, we aren't referencing our parents on the invitation. My FI and I are hosting the wedding so there is no need to reference them. It doesn't mean they are any less important to us, though.</div>
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  • agapecarrieagapecarrie member
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    Weddings are held outside of a mass all the time, it isn't a given. Nuptial mass is the official term for it. It comes with the nuptial blessing in the mass and can only happen when both people are baptized. 


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  • monkeysipmonkeysip member
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    Yeah, ours is like Kristbot's, but even wordier because we added in the parents.

    Mr. and Mrs. Monkey's parents
    request the honor of your presence at the nuptial mass in which
    Monkey
    and
    Fiance
    son of Mr. and Mrs. Fiance's parents
    Will be united in the sacrament of holy matrimony

    It's a lot of words, but it wasn't worth fighting about putting FI's parents or putting "Together with their families".  In the end, it's just an invitation, not the marriage license itself.

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  • lalaith50lalaith50 member
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    <span style="font-size:11px;line-height:14px;">[QUOTE]Kristbot, are you not referencing your parents?  Our parents are extremely important to both of us, so we want to make a point to make reference to them.  FI didn't like the wording of Nuptial Mass, not sure why but he didn't like it and said that a mass is somewhat a given since it's going to be at a Catholic church and our guests know both of us pretty well to know to expect that.  He did like the phrase Holy Matriomy though so not sure how to incorporate that.</span>
    Posted by libby18bell[/QUOTE]
    A wedding invitation technically isn't supposed to be a "who's who" of the bride and grooms families. It really is just supposed to be a way of properly/formally inviting people to an event. If someone is paying, then they are doing the inviting and that's why their names are on it, so  traditionally people's names aren't on the invitation simply to "honor" them.
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  • libby18belllibby18bell member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_catholic-weddings_invitation-wording-13?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:615Discussion:bd694cb3-81e9-4134-b17c-dbba33c7fe2cPost:9fec5811-9b6c-4ebb-a2df-a5eeabf73701">Re: invitation wording</a>:
    [QUOTE]Yeah, ours is like Kristbot's, but even wordier because we added in the parents. Mr. and Mrs. Monkey's parents request the honor of your presence at the nuptial mass in which Monkey and Fiance son of Mr. and Mrs. Fiance's parents Will be united in the sacrament of holy matrimony It's a lot of words, but it wasn't worth fighting about putting FI's parents or putting "Together with their families".  In the end, it's just an invitation, not the marriage license itself.
    Posted by monkeysip[/QUOTE]

    <div>Monkey I really like your wording and I'll show it to FI.  We are adament on including both sets of parents, but couldn't figure out how to do that and list holy matrimony.  </div><div>
    </div><div>I'll see what FI thinks about having nuptial mass in this wording.  We are fortunate that our guests know that both FI and I are practicing Catholics, we go to church every Sunday and had to cancel plans when we had pre-cana.  That's neither here no there, but having a full mass would just be expected by our guests since they know both of us so well, and know we come from very strong Catholic families.</div>
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  • libby18belllibby18bell member
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    Oh Monkey before I forget, if you copy and pasted your invite, you want to change the spelling of honor to HONOUR.  I double checked our rough draft the other day for that.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_catholic-weddings_invitation-wording-13?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:615Discussion:bd694cb3-81e9-4134-b17c-dbba33c7fe2cPost:ccd07777-89b8-42b5-b157-52407607052f">Re: invitation wording</a>:
    [QUOTE]Oh Monkey before I forget, if you copy and pasted your invite, you want to change the spelling of honor to HONOUR.  I double checked our rough draft the other day for that.
    Posted by libby18bell[/QUOTE]

    <div>Disagree.  It's totally a matter of preference which one you use.  "Honor" is the American spelling, so that's what we used.</div><div>
    </div><div>Also, we did not reference the mass in our invitation, but we made sure to get the word out.</div>
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  • libby18belllibby18bell member
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    Thanks so much Professor.  I was really hoping you would chime in since you give great advice.  I tend to like the wording better without mass, and so does FI.

    A few things like Emily Post and Miss Manners say that if you are having the ceremony at a house of worship then you put the "u", I agree that it's more a matter of preference.  
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  • lalaith50lalaith50 member
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    The only thing I've ever heard about honor/honour, is whichever one you choose, you need to match on the rsvp card (if you use this wording,) "the favor/favour of your response..."
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  • professorscienceprofessorscience member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_catholic-weddings_invitation-wording-13?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:615Discussion:bd694cb3-81e9-4134-b17c-dbba33c7fe2cPost:83df7ca1-3c69-4fa1-9f5e-59366903f338">Re: invitation wording</a>:
    [QUOTE]Thanks so much Professor.  I was really hoping you would chime in since you give great advice.  I tend to like the wording better without mass, and so does FI. <strong>A few things like Emily Post and Miss Manners say that if you are having the ceremony at a house of worship then you put the "u", I agree that it's more a matter of preference.  </strong>
    Posted by libby18bell[/QUOTE]

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    </div><div>I've heard that distinction, too, but we still didn't want European spellings in our invitations.  =)</div><div>
    </div><div>I'm not saying we SHOULDN'T have referenced the mass, we just didn't. </div>
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