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No Wedding Party?

Knottie1452988973Knottie1452988973 member
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My fiance' has very few living family members (and not all of them will probably come to the wedding.) So I'm keeping our guest list to only family and mutual friends. I don't have any girlfriends in the area (moved here 1 1/2 ago) who I'd want as a MOH.

The easiest thing to do I figured was to just not have a bridal party. (There'll be a total of maybe 25 people.)

But ... now I'm wondering how that will logistically work?

Anyone doing anything similar? Or know of someone who has?
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    What do you mean how it would logistically work? 
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  • MobKazMobKaz member
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    Many brides opt to not have a wedding party. 

    There really aren't a lot of functional reasons to have someone standing by your side during the ceremony.  If you carry a bouquet, you just need to have someone or something to hold them as you say your vows.  You can ask a parent or family member seated nearby to hold them.  You can arrange to have a vase nearby in which to place them, or a tabletop on which to lay them.  Your FI or officiant can hold onto the wedding rings.
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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    Wedding parties are completely optional.  You are fine.
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  • levioosalevioosa member
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    Wedding parties are optional.  


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  • glasgowtolondonglasgowtolondon member
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    My friend and her H didn't have a WP, there really was no difference in the wedding itself logistically or otherwise. No one judged or tbh even really noticed.

    If you've been lurking on here over the last few days you'll probably have noticed that we have had quite a few posters with very overly dramatic bridesmaid or MOH 'problems', so I commend you for not asking people for the sake of it. Only have one if there are people you truly want to honour and couldn't imagine getting married without them by your side. Otherwise it's for the wrong reasons.

    Good luck with your planning!
                 
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  • spockforprezspockforprez member
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    Just make sure to have a family member or friend be available to help you get into your dress (if you've got the kind of dress that needs help getting into). 
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  • ernursejernursej member
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    I think having a wedding party has become 'normal' so I can see why you've asked the question. Have no fear, it is completely optional. I'm not having a wedding party and I will have my Mom help me into my dress and have someone in the front row hold my bouquet. We will ask two people (still TBD) to sign the registry with us. I'm looking forward to having my friends enjoy the ceremony with the rest of the guests. Good luck planning!
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  • Knottie1452988973Knottie1452988973 member
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    Thanks everyone!
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  • SP29SP29 member
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    My friend who got married this summer did not have a WP.

    Their mothers, who sat in the front row, held and presented their respective rings when requested. Their mothers signed the certificate as witnesses. The bride handed her bouquet to her grandmother (also seated in the front row). No worries! 
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  • scrunchythiefscrunchythief member
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    I agree you don't need a WP, but the other responses reminded me of a friend's wedding.  She had her great-grandmother as her MOH as her whole bridal party.  Just another option to have an important family member take that role too.
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  • jenna8984jenna8984 member
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    I don't think @climbingwife had wedding party

                                                                     

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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    jenna8984 said:
    I don't think @climbingwife had wedding party
    We had a maid of honor and a best man. 
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  • photokittyphotokitty mod
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    We didn't have a wedding party. My mom was in the first row and held my flowers during the vows. My husband had the rings in his pocket until the officiant asked for them. During photos the photog or second shooter took care of anything a moh might feel compelled to assist with. Our best friends, his sister and my brother, offered to do toasts at the reception - but they are not crucial to a wedding.
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  • cupcait927cupcait927 member
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    We didn't have a wedding party. Had approximately 50 guests - most family and a handful of close friends. My mom held my flowers, FIL brought up our rings, and our sisters signed our marriage license. 
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  • best4lastbest4last member
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    Maid of Honor and Best Man for us. My future stepson will hold our rings. Our guest list is a total of 50 (including those in the ceremony). I agree with several other posts, hand off bouquet to a family member.

    Best Wishes!

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  • cowgirl8238cowgirl8238 member
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    As everyone else has pointed out, totally optional and won't even be missed.  Just have someone hold the flowers (or have a vase on a table) when needed and have the DH hold onto the rings in his pocket.
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  • Pinksatin91016Pinksatin91016 member
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    Yeah, totally don't worry about it. I'm not having a wedding party. Just having my FBIL officiate and a former coworker, who introduced my FH and I, (awwww :p ) as my witness. IDK who FH's witness will be. Doesn't matter that much I don't think. I think it just can't be your parents.
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  • SP29SP29 member
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    Pinksatin91016 said:
    Yeah, totally don't worry about it. I'm not having a wedding party. Just having my FBIL officiate and a former coworker, who introduced my FH and I, (awwww :p ) as my witness. IDK who FH's witness will be. Doesn't matter that much I don't think. I think it just can't be your parents.
    I don't think there are any rules on this- besides having a legal consenting adult sign- at least not in Canada. 

    As I said above, with my friends who got married without a WP, both of their mothers signed as witnesses. 
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