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FutureMrsM1112
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Etiquette about allergy issue
Hello all! I'm new here, but I wanted to get peoples' opinions on an issue we've been trying to find a good solution to.
I have a terrible allergy to yellow dye #10. Its found in many shampoos, lotions, and soaps. My allergy is bad enough that if I even hug someone who uses a product that has this dye in it, I break out in a bad rash on my face and arms. I would really prefer not to have a rash on my face for my wedding, oddly enough.
My family and I have been trying to come up with the best solution for this problem. My FI and I are not having a receiving line so that I can try and avoid some hugging, but it won't limit all of it. A friend suggested that I include a small comment somewhere in our invitations that notes my allergy and requests if people can please be conscientious of it and possibly check their products. I feel like this could potentially be seen as rude, and also cannot guarantee that people will check. Does anyone have any thoughts on whether the invitation comment is a good idea, or have any other suggestions? Thanks!
I have a terrible allergy to yellow dye #10. Its found in many shampoos, lotions, and soaps. My allergy is bad enough that if I even hug someone who uses a product that has this dye in it, I break out in a bad rash on my face and arms. I would really prefer not to have a rash on my face for my wedding, oddly enough.
My family and I have been trying to come up with the best solution for this problem. My FI and I are not having a receiving line so that I can try and avoid some hugging, but it won't limit all of it. A friend suggested that I include a small comment somewhere in our invitations that notes my allergy and requests if people can please be conscientious of it and possibly check their products. I feel like this could potentially be seen as rude, and also cannot guarantee that people will check. Does anyone have any thoughts on whether the invitation comment is a good idea, or have any other suggestions? Thanks!
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Re: Etiquette about allergy issue
While also not ideal, is it possible to premedicate? Maybe getting on a Benedryl regimen (or something that your doctor approves; definitely run it by your doctor to see if s/he has a better idea) is the best plan. That way you're protected no matter what you encounter.
Aside from premedication, like @100yroldblinddogsaid, I'd actually think setting up a receiving line, where you can control the situation as you greet guests may be better. (You can't skip greeting guests, so table side would be your other option.) Maybe make sure you're wearing long gloves and some kind of wrap/bolero when you greet people?
How do you usually deal with people? Are you not a hugger, and does everyone know why?
If you send me an invitation weeks ahead of your wedding I will surely forget about your allergies and use what I normally use without a second thought. A line in your program isn't rude and let's people know there is an issue.
I have severe allergies to dogs and some of the meds I have taken really make me tired. You shouldn't have to go through a wedding day like that. I would have them on hand (and maybe yours don't make you drowsy...) but I think giving people a heads up in the program is fine.
I would amp up what you usually do- how do you normally get through a day without having a reaction? If that means you wouldn't hug people or shake hands, I agree with kmmssg, that something like that on your program is probably more effective.
As well as talk to your doctor about anything you can take.
OP, I would also buy some cute short satin tea gloves to wear just during the receiving line so you can shake hands and not be set off by hand lotion, even if you have latex gloves underneath!