My fiance and I got engaged in December and are looking to get married sometime late summer/early fall. We live in NY City and had been considering a city venue because it's convenient to most of our guests. We are also considering a venue less than 2 hours from NY which would require guests to stay overnight.
I'm torn about this because my fiance and I do feel like our wedding is about us but also our friends and family that have supported us through the years, etc. We don't have a registry and I'm not having a bridal shower so really the only cost to local guests is an overnight stay and whatever gift they'd like to provide. I feel bad because I'm the last of my mom's friend's daughters to get married; some have newborns, toddlers, are pregnant again, have two kids and would be coming to the wedding with their parents and other close friends (aka their usual babysitters). I did the whole travel thing for their weddings but recognize it's different if you have children.
The venue we're considering is a beautiful house with rooms upstairs so I don't mind the children coming and being cared for by a nanny or someone upstairs; I don't mind kids coming to the wedding either. I'm just feeling bad about inconveniencing people.
I'm sure people have dealt with this before; how can I ease the travel for them? Provide a bus to and from so people don't have to drive? Provide a sitter during the wedding?