I got engaged in August and have asked my sister and a few close friends to be bridesmaids. One of my bridesmaids has completely disappeared since then. We live in separate states and our relationship has definitely changed since I moved away, but I've maintained great relationships with all of my other friends. She won't return phone calls or text messages for weeks at a time, and when she does text me back it's always a Buzzfeed article. This isn't about needing her to do things for the wedding, she only needs to show up. I also get that people's lives get busy but I truly don't feel like we have much of a friendship anymore. I've talked to her about this a few times, and her response is always "I love you even if we don't talk much." I feel like caring about someone and being an active friend are two different things.
I know that asking someone to step down from a bridal party is like putting the nail in the friendship coffin, I also know that I want the people who are closest to me to stand by my side and I feel like she and I barely know each other anymore. I need some Knottie-Insight!