Wedding Woes

Since I know a lot of Regs are on here - Just looking for a sanity check.

I feel like I am at crunch time for wedding stuff as we are just about 9 weeks out, and I wanted to have a quick sanity check of all the pieces to see if I am forgetting anything.  I am one of those people that usually has it all together, and for some reason I am feeling totally overwhelmed!!

1) Venue booked - will hold 175, 158 invited, and with early regrets sent, we believe we will be at around 135.  We are fully hosting everything.  Ceremony, cocktails and reception are all in the same place, which is also a hotel, so we didn't need to worry about any transportation for guests.

2) Since 95% of the people invited are coming from out of state, we sent the invites out slightly early.  Invitations went to everyone with a save the date.  We are collecting RSVPs now, as the coordinator has indicated final counts are necessary 25 days out.  Our room block closes 45 days out.

3) Rehersal is scheduled for the Friday at 4pm, and then we are having a large welcome reception/ rehersal dinner including any OOT guests and we have worked with the restaurant to have a final contract on that.

4) Officiant is currently writing the ceremony. In MA we need to get the Marriage license no more than 60 days out so we are going in the second week of March.  Fiance has confirmed he has all the paperwork on his divorce.

5) Attire - Fiance and Bestman have been measured and tuxes are on order.  Bridesmaid was told to wear whatever she wants and is considering rent the runway. I have had 1 fitting, and am scheduled for a second, with time for a potential third.  Accessories and shoes are also covered.

6) Hotel welcome bags are planned, but will not be assembled until final room bookings come in.

7) Cake tasting is scheduled for next week.

8) Registry completed for shower in a couple weeks.

9) DJ has indicated he will meet with us 1 month out to finalize details. Photographer (same company as DJ) will also meet with us at the same time.

10) Florist has confirmed order, but is waiting on final table count to finalize.

11) VIPs flights are booked and transport we have helped them with transport to the wedding.

Okay - have at it... what have I missed... other than taking a deep breath!   Thanks in advance.  I am ever so grateful for everything I learned on this board, but it has made me paranoid that I will miss something that would make this properly hosted!  

Re: Since I know a lot of Regs are on here - Just looking for a sanity check.

  • Good on the breathing. 

    Things that I forgot about until the last minute..
    1) underwear for under my dress. I had a corset bra but forgot panties. (Don't judge!) I went shopping the Wednesday before my Friday wedding. 
    2) gifts for bridesmaid/MOH and Best man/GM. Also flower girl or ring bearer. 
    3) do you have your room or plan for where you two are staying after the reception. 
    4) a plan for how people will find their tables. Escort cards, escort board etc.  You obviously can't do them until you have all of your RSVPs back, but an idea of what you will do. 
    5) a timeline for the day. What time do you need to be at the ceremony? How long will it take you to be t there? When are you doing pictures (first look or during cocktail hour)? I had no idea how to plan out the day so I relied heavily on my photographer and hair and makeup stylist to help me determine how much time I needed for everything to take place. 

    Looks like you you have a great start!
  • Definitely looks like you're on the right track!  I'd double check with your venue that they don't put out a tip basket, but that's the only hosting type thing I could think of.

    Other things you might want to do:
    -Favors (definitely not a necessity.  I would've skipped them if I didn't want to stick to the Jordan almond tradition in my family)
    -Think about where everyone will get ready, especially if you and your FI don't w ant to see each other.
    -Set up for a Gifts/Card table

    Maybe you could go through the check list on the knot and see if there's anything on there that you want to do?  Don't feel pressured to do all of it (limos aren't necessary for an example), but it can help remind you of details you might not think of.

    And take some time to just be with your FI without talking wedding:)

  • Thank you both, @charlotte989875 and @scrunchythief!  Very helpful.  Escort cards are taken care of, as well as a place for both of us to stay both nights.  Photographer was doing a timeline that I was going to append for before she arrived, but I will make that more of a priority.  We already covered the tip conversation with the venue, and if I see them, I will personally move them off the bar...  :) For favors, we decided to forgo them and opted for a late night snack at the end of the reception.  Pretzels and Popcorn (Yay)!

    Good reminder on the gifts.  And seriously, I travel a lot and have often found underwear being forgotten.  Good call!!

  • If you need a cake server or toasting flutes, have you gotten them?

    Do your shoes need breaking in? I've taken mine to the grocery store and worn up and down the aisles (yes, I am a dork, but I at least have the cart right there).

    Also, you may be able to ask for a list of who has already booked your roomblock.  I've found it to be helpful in making sure I have everyone's RSVP.
  • Hair and make up? Food for during the day - you don't want to go all day without eating. If you and your WP are getting ready together, you will want to provide food for them too.
  • Make a list of what pictures you want and where-espepcailly if you are not doing a first look (I did a first look but was still glad pictures ddnot take mroe than an hour).

     We had big wedding party that included cousins, brothers, sisters, goddaughters etc. so it was quicker to yell out "Laura Tiffany Valerie Nick Ethan Justin" rather than "Bride, Groom, Bride's Brother, Grooms sisters and grooms brother in law"




  • Hair and make up? Food for during the day - you don't want to go all day without eating. If you and your WP are getting ready together, you will want to provide food for them too.
    I was going to say this too. Doesn't have to be anything fancy - I provided sandwich trays from Publix, chips, fruit and veggie trays, and water for my WP. Trust me, you will not want to go without eating and neither will they.

  • Thank you all.  Things that were not on my radar... food during the day!!  And the photo list was in the back of my mind, but frankly hadn't thought about when I would write that all down!  You guys are great. 
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