I was invited to a Wedding for a family friend's daughter. The thing is, I've never met her or her fiance. They live in Europe. The family friend is through my step father. Honestly I'm a little confused. It was a nice gesture but I've never met the girl lol. I'm going to decline but do I send a gift? This is so bizarre haha.
Re: Invited to a Wedding? I don't even know the person?
I'm thinking of just buying a nice wedding frame for $20 tops from ThingsRemembered and giving it to the parents so they can take it to Europe. There's no way I am paying to have it shipped there.
I think it was a nice gesture but it's kind of weird I'd have to send a gift.
Hopefully it's not a gift grab invitation. I will say this sounds like a situation where my mom would have made me invite you if the family is close. Example: I was close with our neighbor's daughter growing up, and also knew her parents pretty well. We are inviting her and her parents, and my mom is insisting we invite her brother too. I know him but probably haven't spoken to him since he moved out after high school about 7-8 years ago. Her thought is even he won't come, but it would be "rude" to invite his entire family except him. I disagree, and don't think he would be offended in the slightest, but my parents are paying, and as they say, those who pay have a say. I 100% do not expect him to send me a wedding gift, so I'm hoping yours is that kind of a situation rather than a gift grab invitation!
I wouldnt give a cheap gift and I especially wouldn't give her parents the chore of delivering it though! RSVP no, send a card congratulating the happy couple, and call it a day. They didn't invite you to extort $10 out of you.
I also wouldn't assume this is a gift grab.
DH's parents sent us a list of 50 obscure people, many of whom we had never met. They even said "these people probably won't come, but we want them to at least receive an invitation." Thankfully they didn't contribute to the wedding so we just told them no. Otherwise we may have had to invite these people.
This person might be in a similar situation. Try to assume good intentions. Even so, I wouldn't send a gift or a card if you don't know them. I'd probably just check the decline box and write "Congratulations!" on the RSVP card.
Still, I wouldn't send a gift. Maybe a card with the RSVP, but not a gift.
As a guest that was invited you do not have an obligation to give a gift. In this instance (based on post) I think a nice card and small a check would be my course of action. It shows that you care and support them, but it isn't difficult to send and shouldn't break the bank to send it.