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Men of honor

I have 3 best friends, 2 of them happen to be men. It is important that I have them stand on my side during the wedding ceremony. I'm trying to plan how I will have them walk down the aisle, then walk out after the ceremony is over. There will be 6 groomsmen standing on my fiances side, and 8 on my side including my "men of honor."

Has anyone had men stand in as a bridesmaid or man of honor.
Or even an odd number in the wedding party....?
Any ideas or suggestions are greatly appreciated. <3

Re: Men of honor

  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    This has been done many times.  Nothing wrong with it.
    The groomsmen do not usually process.  They appear at he front with the groom and the officiant to wait for the bridal party to process.  Your bride friends would process just like any other bridal party.  Men attendants do not usually carry bouquets.
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  • If you want them to process as part of your bridal party, just have them walk down the aisle by themselves. There is no need to have anything special/different just because they are male and not titled "bridesmaid."

    And as far as odd numbered wedding parties are concerned, no one cares lol. You'll be fine!

  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 Ravens & Bohs & Crabs & O's member
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    I would have the GM come in from the side with the Groom and already standing up front before the processional begins.  Then have your side process in a single file.

    Once the ceremony is over, just pair everyone up.  So 6 of your side will be paired with the 6 on your FI side.  Then the two remaining people on your side would be paired.  Two guys can certainly walk side by side up the aisle.

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  • You can also have a bridesman and groomsman walk down together, if you're pairing the bridesmaids with the groomsmen. There's no reason to have them walk down in gendered pairs. 

    I'll be having my Matron of Honor walk down next to one of my FI's groomsmaids. NBD. 
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 Houston member
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    I sometimes think about asking my brother to be man of honor for me. I don't know if he'd do it though.
  • Jen4948 said:
    I sometimes think about asking my brother to be man of honor for me. I don't know if he'd do it though.
    When it comes time to decide, I'm thinking of asking my cousin to be my best man.  Programs would say; Bride's Best Man, Joe Smith; Groom's Best Man, Larry Jones.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 Houston member
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    adk19 said:


    Jen4948 said:

    I sometimes think about asking my brother to be man of honor for me. I don't know if he'd do it though.

    When it comes time to decide, I'm thinking of asking my cousin to be my best man.  Programs would say; Bride's Best Man, Joe Smith; Groom's Best Man, Larry Jones.

    I like this idea.
  • My brother is my Best Man
    My FSIL is my FI's Maid of Honor

    This is the extent of our wedding party (except my ringbearer).
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  • HeffalumpHeffalump member
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    Jen4948 said:
    I sometimes think about asking my brother to be man of honor for me. I don't know if he'd do it though.
    I wish I had done this, back in the day.  I'm embarrassed to say that it never occurred to me, but now I wish it had.

    Of course, he was barely out of college at the time and working crazy hours getting established in his career, so it's probably for the best--I have no idea when he would have found time to decoupage my centerpieces.  ;)

    ^^ Pretend that last paragraph is purple Comic Sans.  For some reason, I don't have a font button anymore, just bold/italic/strikethrough.  >:|
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  • You can have both sides walk down together. You could have the groomsmen already standing and your party process in single file. You could have your men of honour escort a bridesmaid. There aren't really any rules here, so however it works is fine. 

    My friend's husband had a groomswoman. She walked in with one of the bridesmaids- no big deal. 

    At our wedding, we had each of our parties walk down the aisle, but we did them separately and they walked in singly. 
  • My male best friend is my "Maid of Dishonor." I let him name himself.
    i think this is hilarious. we've got a small wedding party. man of honor, best man. a child who calls himself our ring bear and two flower girls. we're contemplating getting the small child bear ears just cause we think it's so cute.  :p
  • I had a bridesman. The groomsmen were waiting at the alter with the groom. My bridesman processed with the bridesmaids but didn't carry a bouquet. On the way back they grabbed their SOs (or in the case of my MOH she brought her sister). I love the pictures of them with their SOs more than if we'd just paired them up randomly or had them walk alone. Some of them had SOs in the wedding party and the other ones just met as they walked by down the aisle and finished recessing. 

    Our initial plan was to have my bridesman escort my grandma back and one of his groomsmen escort his grandma back but then his groomsman had to drop out because he got a job overseas. We played with the idea of having him escort both but both of our grandmas need help walking so that'd be too difficult on one person. Then we realized it made sense to just let them walk with whomever they came with. 
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 Houston member
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    Has anyone ever had a "Couple of Honor" ? I could see that at my own wedding.
  • flantasticflantastic The Midwest member
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    Jen4948 said:
    Has anyone ever had a "Couple of Honor" ? I could see that at my own wedding.
    I feel like that would depend on the relationship they have with your FI, if any.

    For instance, my parents were just the witnesses for their best friend couple's convalidation. In that sense, I think they were more a "couple of honor" than a best man-for-groom and matron of honor-for-bride. But I would only consider going with that title if there were other WP members - otherwise, "witnesses" seems fine.

    However, if they're just two people with whom a bride happens to be close and they happen to be together, I don't think there's a need to distinguish them as a couple - just give them normal titles. Their relationship to each other isn't what's at stake here.
  • Jen4948Jen4948 Houston member
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    Jen4948 said:
    Has anyone ever had a "Couple of Honor" ? I could see that at my own wedding.
    I feel like that would depend on the relationship they have with your FI, if any.

    For instance, my parents were just the witnesses for their best friend couple's convalidation. In that sense, I think they were more a "couple of honor" than a best man-for-groom and matron of honor-for-bride. But I would only consider going with that title if there were other WP members - otherwise, "witnesses" seems fine.

    However, if they're just two people with whom a bride happens to be close and they happen to be together, I don't think there's a need to distinguish them as a couple - just give them normal titles. Their relationship to each other isn't what's at stake here.
    Actually, I was thinking of the status, not the title - a couple who served as attendants of honor for the same principal, as opposed to two MOHs or two BMs.
  • Jen4948 said:
    Jen4948 said:
    Has anyone ever had a "Couple of Honor" ? I could see that at my own wedding.
    I feel like that would depend on the relationship they have with your FI, if any.

    For instance, my parents were just the witnesses for their best friend couple's convalidation. In that sense, I think they were more a "couple of honor" than a best man-for-groom and matron of honor-for-bride. But I would only consider going with that title if there were other WP members - otherwise, "witnesses" seems fine.

    However, if they're just two people with whom a bride happens to be close and they happen to be together, I don't think there's a need to distinguish them as a couple - just give them normal titles. Their relationship to each other isn't what's at stake here.
    Actually, I was thinking of the status, not the title - a couple who served as attendants of honor for the same principal, as opposed to two MOHs or two BMs.
    I would hope you would still give them individual titles, for example with a cis hetero couple Man of Honor and Maid of Honor. Actually calling people 'Couple of Honor' is strange IMO and seems to negate their existence as separate people.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 Houston member
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    Jen4948 said:
    Jen4948 said:
    Has anyone ever had a "Couple of Honor" ? I could see that at my own wedding.
    I feel like that would depend on the relationship they have with your FI, if any.

    For instance, my parents were just the witnesses for their best friend couple's convalidation. In that sense, I think they were more a "couple of honor" than a best man-for-groom and matron of honor-for-bride. But I would only consider going with that title if there were other WP members - otherwise, "witnesses" seems fine.

    However, if they're just two people with whom a bride happens to be close and they happen to be together, I don't think there's a need to distinguish them as a couple - just give them normal titles. Their relationship to each other isn't what's at stake here.
    Actually, I was thinking of the status, not the title - a couple who served as attendants of honor for the same principal, as opposed to two MOHs or two BMs.
    I would hope you would still give them individual titles, for example with a cis hetero couple Man of Honor and Maid of Honor. Actually calling people 'Couple of Honor' is strange IMO and seems to negate their existence as separate people.
    Yes, they would have individual titles.  They would just happen to be SOs.
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