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Advice on including little cousins in my wedding!

LisapiisaLisapiisa member
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edited February 2016 in Wedding Party
I am very close with my cousins three daughters. At the time of my wedding, the oldest girl will be 8, and the twin girls will be 6. I am planning on asking the twins to be my flower girls / ring bearers. I am just curious if anyone has any ideas on a small job I could give the 8 year old - So that she doesn't feel left out. None of them have been in a wedding so I want to make sure I include all three of them somehow. I thought about having a junior bridesmaid or having the twins be flowers girls and the 8 year old be the ring bearer but I'm not leaning towards that. Thanks!
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Re: Advice on including little cousins in my wedding!

  • LisapiisaLisapiisa member
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    I considered that also but am curious if there is a different way to do it. I already feel like two is enough, so if there is another job I could give the older one, I would rather do that!
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  • ViczaesarViczaesar member
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    The only honorary roles are flower girl, bridesmaid, or reader.



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  • MobKazMobKaz member
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    Lisapiisa said:
    I am very close with my cousins three daughters. At the time of my wedding, the oldest girl will be 8, and the twin girls will be 6. I am planning on asking the twins to be my flower girls / ring bearers. I am just curious if anyone has any ideas on a small job I could give the 8 year old - So that she doesn't feel left out. None of them have been in a wedding so I want to make sure I include all three of them somehow. I thought about having a junior bridesmaid or having the twins be flowers girls and the 8 year old be the ring bearer but I'm not leaning towards that. Thanks!
    The twins will be part of the processional.  The 8 year old, regardless of "job", will feel left out if she is not also part of that processional.  She will not equate "program passer", for example (which is NOT being suggested) in the same light as part of the wedding party.  The numbers should not be important.  If you are truly "very" close with these girls, then stop over-thinking it. You can have 3 flower girls, 2 flower girls and a ring bearer, or 2 flower girls and an extra bridesmaid.
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  • HeffalumpHeffalump member
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    kimmiinthemitten said:
    I like having the twins be the flower girls and the older sister as ring bearer. 
    Me too.

    Lisapiisa said:
    I thought about having a junior bridesmaid or having the twins be flowers girls and the 8 year old be the ring bearer but I'm not leaning towards that.
    Why not?
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    edited February 2016
    Flower girl, ring bearer or bridesmaid (not junior) are pretty much your only options.

    You could have one or all of them read, perform music or perform a religious part of the ceremony, but that's probably a bit much for that age. 
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    You can ask.  Maybe one of the twins would prefer to be the ring bearer and the other two can be flower girls.  Maybe one of them would rather not be the center of attention and would rather just sit with her parents.  Maybe one of them is an excellent reader and would like to read a poem or Bible passage.  Maybe the 8 year old thinks a flower girl is a job for babies and would be deLIGHTed to be a bridesmaid and feel so grown up.  Ask their parents what they think, then ask the girls.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    The only options are bridesmaid, flower girl, and reader.

    I'd ask the girls (and their parents) what they'd prefer.
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  • BrinkyDink16BrinkyDink16 member
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    The eight year old could hand out programs, if you're having them.  If you're doing an exit from where the ceremony is taking place she could also hand out anything that's being thrown, waved, or blown at you.  When I was 10 I was in my cousin's wedding and along with being a junior bridesmaid I did both of those jobs.  There were two of us and we stood at the doors greeting people and handing them a program, then we stood at the doors again as people walked out and handed out little bottles of bubbles.
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  • thatpreppynerdthatpreppynerd member
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    My 10-year-old cousin is one of my bridesmaids.  She was thrilled the day I asked her.  I think at eight they are responsible enough to know what to do and where to go and stay where they need to for however long the ceremony is.
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  • SP29SP29 member
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    I was a bridesmaid in my aunts wedding at the age of 8. Loved it!
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