Hey, so my boyfriend and I are basically engaged. Like we're just waiting for the ring to come before we make it official. His stepmother is already driving me crazy about wedding planning.
Basically neither he or I are all to thrilled about her even being included in the wedding events (but we really have no choice). However, I feel like she is really overstepping her boundaries.
She is already announcing to everyone that we are engaged, when we wanted to wait until the ring came. She is talking about sending an announcement to the newspaper on her own, when that is something my parents want to do. She is constantly pressuring me into giving her information about our wedding, when I haven't even started planning.
I normally say things like "well we are really kind of waiting until it's more official" or "I haven't really gotten that far in the process yet" but then she comes back with "you need to get a move on or you're going to regret it."
I don't really know how to handle this situation. I am no where near comfortable talking to her about this, she and I do not have any sort of relationship other than pleasantries when I go to his dad's house. He does not have any positive relationship with her. He pretty much actively dislikes her.
I'm thinking of asking him to talk to his dad, but I'm afraid of hurt feelings. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but I also don't want to feel like I have to walk on eggshells when it comes to my own wedding.