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FMIL Dress Shopping 2 Months before wedding
My wedding is 2 months away, and FMIL still hasn't found her dress. Back in November, she had shown me a few dresses she ordered online; however, this past week, she calls me and asks where my mom ordered her dress. Not sure if a salon can get one in in time. I have offered before if she wants to go dress shopping that I could go with her if she wants, but not sure how much I should offer/push. We are getting close and she is currently in Colorado for fun, then comes home next week for a few days before heading back to Florida for the month of March.
Should I help? What would you do? FMIL and I haven't exactly gotten along during the wedding planning process, not sure why? So I thought this could be a good bonding opportunity, but not sure... any suggestions?
Should I help? What would you do? FMIL and I haven't exactly gotten along during the wedding planning process, not sure why? So I thought this could be a good bonding opportunity, but not sure... any suggestions?
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Re: FMIL Dress Shopping 2 Months before wedding
Really, don't stress out over this. Ditto PPs in that you should not push this forced bonding, especially if your relationship has been off lately. You offered help, it's on her to take you up on it if she wants. Answer any questions she has and be done with it. Two months is more than enough time to find a dress, and it doesn't need to be one ordered from a salon. She could find one at the mall a week before the wedding, or she may decide to wear something in her closet already. In any case, not your worry. She will be wearing clothes and you will be blissfully happy and married and not even paying attention to what she's wearing. Consider it one more thing crossed off your list.
There are plenty of department stores that sell nice dresses. She really doesn't have to order one from a salon. Even if she chooses to, whether it will be in on time isn't your problem to worry about.
Help her by telling her where your mom ordered her dress. If she asks you for help, you can go shopping with her if you want. Otherwise let her dress herself like she's done for presumably years.
OP, it sounds as if you have a tendency to insert yourself into issues you need not involve yourself in. It sounds to me as if the struggle with your FMIL is trying to fulfill YOUR wishes regarding the dress.
Stop offering to go shopping with her. If and when she calls again, make it crystal clear that she is free to wear whatever it is that makes her feel comfortable and beautiful. Maybe she will find something while in Colorado or Florida.
OP - people plan funerals in the span of three days and yet those attending figure out what to wear, your FMIL has time! Even if it was you the bride trying to find a dress and you're two months from your wedding, I'd say you're fine and have options! There are tons of stores she can purchase off the rack from and have something at any end of the formalness and size spectrum! I think my Mom went shopping for the dress she wore to my brother's wedding a couple weeks before and looked great! Delegate the detail to FMIL, answer her question she had, but otherwise DROP IT! You've got too many other details to deal with. Even if she shows up in a feed sack dress, it's going to be o.k.!!!
Anyways, I appreciate your help... I just wasn't sure what to do. Some things got ugly during the planning process of my shower between my mom and FMIL, and FMIL has been a little weird around me, so I thought this might be a good bonding opportunity... but the good news is FSIL went shopping with FMIL and they found a dress, so all is good!