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Should bridal party get a plus one?

Knottie1438283701Knottie1438283701 member
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I have read that bridal party should always get a plus one and they are doing so much. For my case, it isn't exactly like that. I have a stellar MH and my  bridesmaids are cousins that I have to make bridesmaids that won't be doing anything but making my life a bit harder. (unfortunately). Does this mean that they too should get a plus one? 
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  • OurWildKingdomOurWildKingdom member
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    If they're in serious relationships, they get a plus one regardless of your relationship with them.
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  • crys-cryscrys-crys member
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    Your bridesmaids aren't actually supposed to do anything but stand next to you the day of anyway. So yes, they get plus ones if they are dating anyone. 
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  • OurWildKingdomOurWildKingdom member
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    SP29 said:
    OurWildKingdom said:
    If they're in serious relationships, they get a plus one regardless of your relationship with them.
    Not exactly.

    If someone is in a relationship, that is a significant other. SOs are ALWAYS invited, by name.

    A "plus one" is given to a truly single guest, and means that person can bring WHOEVER they want- date, friend, cousin, mother. A plus one is never required, but always a nice gesture.

    OP- If you are extending a plus one to your MOH, you should extend it to your BM's also.

    I think it always a nice gesture to extend the a plus one to your WP. Those in your WP are nearest and dearest to you (the nearest and dearest of your near and dear), thus, I think one would want to extend this courtesy to them.
    You worded it much better than I did. My bad.
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  • SP29SP29 member
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    OurWildKingdom said:
    SP29 said:
    OurWildKingdom said:
    If they're in serious relationships, they get a plus one regardless of your relationship with them.
    Not exactly.

    If someone is in a relationship, that is a significant other. SOs are ALWAYS invited, by name.

    A "plus one" is given to a truly single guest, and means that person can bring WHOEVER they want- date, friend, cousin, mother. A plus one is never required, but always a nice gesture.

    OP- If you are extending a plus one to your MOH, you should extend it to your BM's also.

    I think it always a nice gesture to extend the a plus one to your WP. Those in your WP are nearest and dearest to you (the nearest and dearest of your near and dear), thus, I think one would want to extend this courtesy to them.
    You worded it much better than I did. My bad.
    No worries. I just like to be very clear, as we've had posters ask if they have to give a "plus one", which of course we say no, not required. Then we find out the poster is actually talking about someone's boyfriend/girlfriend who is getting snubbed because the OP wants to save money/ didn't budget for SOs/ didn't make room in the guest list/ doesn't like someone's SO.
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  • STARMOON44STARMOON44 member
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    I think you should always give the bridal party plus ones. 
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  • monkeysipmonkeysip member
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    It's not technically required, but I agree that you should let them bring someone.  

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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    STARMOON44 said:
    I think you should always give the bridal party plus ones. 
    I personally do not think the WP members are more special than other guests in reference to plus ones.     Basically I think everyone should get a plus one.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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  • Ghostie625Ghostie625 member
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    We didn't extend plus ones to our single WP members with one exception. Most of our WP members are relatives or college friends who will all know plenty of other people at the wedding. The one exception we made was for my one high school friend who really only knows my sisters and parents. I basically gave them the same criteria for plus ones as I did my other guests.
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  • geebee908geebee908 member
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    Please be considerate of the SOs and +1s and don't leave them to fend for themselves at any point of at all possible. Seat them together at dinner and try to keep them with their SO or friend as much as possible throughout the day.
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  • levioosalevioosa member
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    SO's ALWAYS need to be invited, regardless of length of relationship.  

    Your WP is not required to do anything other than show up, on time, sober, and in the correct attire.  That's it.  They don't have to plan or pay, or help you decorate. That is up to you and FI.

    Even though it's technically not required, I would offer every member a plus one.  (Note: a plus one is different than an SO.  A plus one is for truly single guests.  SOs should be invited by name on the invitation).  


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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    Echoing here.  But if they have a SO, then the SO is invited.  You don't have to extend a plus one to truly single guests.  It's nice thing to do if you are able. 

    Personally, anytime I've been a bridesmaid, and truly single at the time, I was always touched whenever I did receive a plus one.  Granted, I didn't always use it, but the gesture was kind and appreciated. 
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  • MaggieF1990MaggieF1990 member
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    I have been going through my list to possibly not give EVERYONE a plus one if they are truly single, but two of my four bridesmaids are single and I plan on extending plus ones to them for sure, and I know one will use it and bring a good friend of hers. My situation is different because my bridesmaids are sister, cousin and two best friends so we are much closer than it sounds like you are with yours, but I think the nice thing to do is offer them a plus one.
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  • flantasticflantastic member
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    MaggieF1990 said:
    I have been going through my list to possibly not give EVERYONE a plus one if they are truly single, but two of my four bridesmaids are single and I plan on extending plus ones to them for sure, and I know one will use it and bring a good friend of hers. My situation is different because my bridesmaids are sister, cousin and two best friends so we are much closer than it sounds like you are with yours, but I think the nice thing to do is offer them a plus one.
    I actually think it is nicer to extend a plus one to those (bridal party especially, but also others) who are more on the periphery. That way, if they choose, they have someone to "default" to when spending the evening. They may not choose to use it, but I think it is kind to give them the option.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    I would never dream of not giving my bridal party a plus one. We gave everyone a plus one, but I realize that isn't always in the budget. 

    ETA: What I don't understand is this constant desire to punish and reward the wedding party for their level of involvement. You're doing more! I'm "promoting" you to MOH! You're not helping me! No plus one for you!

    Ugh.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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