Quick background in case anyone needs it: my FH was in a motorcycle accident and is in the hospital, doing well but a long road until he's back home. We've canceled our big May wedding and are planning to get married in the hospital.
Warning: there may be some classic @spockforprez overthinking in this thread. Don't hold back. Tough love welcome. Haha.I think we've settled on St. Paddy's Day for our wedding. My FH's name is Patrick, so it fits, and seems really sweet and sentimental. Plus, it's one of my favorite days because it holds special significance from one of my close friends in high school who passed away the summer before our senior year. And I have Irish background. And I love the color green. So, overall, we are excited about that. Just working out the license part and then we'll be good to go.
Everyone who was invited to our May wedding is aware of the circumstances of what's going on with my FH, and I think everyone is generally assuming we won't be having our originally-planned wedding. The invites did not go out yet, although all guests received Save the Dates. What should I do to ensure we communicate clearly with all of the guests at this point?
Mom thinks we should wait to say anything until we get married and then send announcements with a "we'll have a celebration at a future date" message on there. I'm just wondering if it's rude to get married without telling people officially that we canceled the big wedding first. Thoughts?
It's not going to be a secret wedding, I'm sure we will post a photo on Facebook. So is that sufficient to let our guests know we got married, or should we do the announcement thing? On the one hand, I feel a little overwhelmed at the thought of creating and ordering announcements and then addressing and mailing envelopes, and I'd love to skip it if possible. But, even in our current circumstances, I don't want to treat our guests poorly because the truth is that I do have the time, I just sit at the hospital most days and talk to FH or watch Netflix if he's sleeping. So I
can do it.
We would still need to send announcements along with an invitation whenever we decide to have the party - so that's one of the reasons I don't really want to do an announcement now. I figure we can tell the 90% of our guest list that's on social media that way, and call our grandparents and friends/family who aren't on facebook. Then like six months from now or whenever, we can send out the "Bride and Groom announce their marriage on March 17th in City, State. Please join us for a celebration on X at Y place." thing all at once. That would be my ideal situation. Rude? Not rude?
All feedback welcomed... thanks TK
