Don't bite the hand you may want to feed you one day...

Re: Don't bite the hand you may want to feed you one day...

• lembaslover member

  

  March 2016

  I would definitely not recommend her. When you recommend someone you're putting your career on the line too and if you don't trust that person it's not a good fit. I can't believe she'd even have the nerve to ask.
  
  Also I think it's bullshit that there is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. If you earn my respect I'll help you regardless of gender, race, orientation, religion etc... and reversely I'm not helping people just because we share one of those things in common.

  

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• ThxSugar member

  

  March 2016

  Maybe you can help her by pointing her in a better direction. I certainly would never put myself on the line professionally for someone I wasn't enthusiastic about.

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• holyguacamole79 member

  

  March 2016

  "I really don't think the culture here is a good fit for you."

  
  
  
  
  

  

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• thefanciestbeckler member

  

  March 2016

  marriedhamstermom said:

  I would definitely not recommend her. When you recommend someone you're putting your career on the line too and if you don't trust that person it's not a good fit. I can't believe she'd even have the nerve to ask.
  
  Also I think it's bullshit that there is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. If you earn my respect I'll help you regardless of gender, race, orientation, religion etc... and reversely I'm not helping people just because we share one of those things in common.

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• VarunaTT member

  

  March 2016 edited March 2016

  I will make a special effort to help other women and other marginalized populations (LGBTQ+, PoC) and I have no issue with saying it or working that. I've found such a lack of representation in the stuffs I do and it's a concern of mine.  Diversity is important. 
  
  HOWEVER, if you're not someone I would want to work with, just being a marginalized population member isn't enough to overcome that concern.  I want efficient, capable, and impressive people busting down biases, not someone I have to make excuses for.  You're not helping get more diverse representation if you suck at your job/role (which gets into a whole 'nother discussion about higher expectations and institutionalized biases, but that's not particular relevant to the OP).

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• princessleia22 member

  

  March 2016

  I wouldn't recommend her.  Another issue is that if she is so against mom's working, she likely won't stay at the job for long.  She may be needing something to fill in until her husband gets another job, but then she may quit and you are stuck with the negative impact of recommending someone who flaked out on the job.
  

   

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• banana468 member

  

  March 2016

  Ditto @holyguacamole79 .
  
  And I'd consider saying, "I need to let you know that the company considers positions here as part of a career path.   Based on some of your previous comments I don't think I can recommend you for a position that may be used as a way to fill a gap." 

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