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Wedding party introductions and s/o seating

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We are having a king's table at our reception, and the way the venue is set up, it's on a bit of a platform, so it's pretty visible to the other guests (just the way the venue is set up). I wavered back and forth, but decided that I would really like to have wedding party introductions coming into the reception.

My question is, since the wedding party's significant others will also be seated at the king's table, should they be sitting there before the bridal party comes in and is introduced, or should they come up afterwards. There's only like 3 S/Os, and I know personally that I would feel kind of awkward just sitting up there before my significant other came, but if they're not already seated, where should they be?

Sorry, this small detail has been bothering me, and I assume there's probably an easy solution that's just eluding me. 

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  • floridabride44floridabride44 member
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    Just have them sit at their seats. It'll only be for a few minutes until their SO's are introduced and up there with them. 

    I think it might be more awkward to make them to stand off to the side or something and then be seated once the BP is over. 

    PS- Props for letting SO's with with the BP!
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  • MobKazMobKaz member
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    floridabride44 said:
    Just have them sit at their seats. It'll only be for a few minutes until their SO's are introduced and up there with them. 

    I think it might be more awkward to make them to stand off to the side or something and then be seated once the BP is over. 

    PS- Props for letting SO's with with the BP!
    Agreed.  As an SO, I would far and away prefer a few minutes of sitting on my own prior to being joined for the duration of dinner, versus the entire mealtime of sitting apart from my SO.

    Also agree with the kudo's for treating ALL your guests respectfully!
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    Yes - just have them sitting there while you do intros.   It's a few minutes and who knows - they may take the best photos ! 
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  • MomentaryGoldMomentaryGold member
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    Thanks for your answers! You're all totally right, I don't know why I got stuck on this detail. I'll have them already seated. Here's hoping about them taking good pictures!
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  • CasadenaCasadena member
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    Or you could introduce your bridal party individually and let their SO/dates accompany them.  
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  • MandyMostMandyMost member
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    If you are planning for them to be already seated, are you planning to do assigned seating at the king's table? I think you should.
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    And here I thought we were going to see yet another thread about how to tell your bridal party that they cannot sit with their SOs at dinner. I am so glad to see that you're being thoughtful of your guests' comfort!

    I agree with PPs - just have them sit before the intros, like the rest of your guests. And echoing @MandyMost - I recommend having assigned seating for your kings table, so that SOs know where they are supposed to sit.
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  • wmam35wmam35 member
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    I was an SO at a King's Table and didn't feel weird sitting with only a few others for a few minutes.  While the couple didn't do assigned seating with name cards, they asked SOs to sit with their backs to the other guests and the wedding party sit facing the guests, which I thought made sense and made it easy enough to know where to sit.
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    wmam35 said:
    I was an SO at a King's Table and didn't feel weird sitting with only a few others for a few minutes.  While the couple didn't do assigned seating with name cards, they asked SOs to sit with their backs to the other guests and the wedding party sit facing the guests, which I thought made sense and made it easy enough to know where to sit.
    When I was a bridesmaid with a King's table, we had assigned seats.  We also had seating on four sides of a HUGE table, like 20 people around it.  I was assigned next to my boyfriend with my single friend who was another bridesmaid on the other side of me.  We could see people on the other side of the table and the bride and groom, but they were too far away for us to actually talk to them.  I remember it being awesome.
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  • MomentaryGoldMomentaryGold member
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    MandyMost said:
    If you are planning for them to be already seated, are you planning to do assigned seating at the king's table? I think you should.
    Yes, definitely assigned seating, I think it will just make everything easier. I'll try to seat the SOs near each other though so that they can talk while they wait for the intros. 
    Thanks so much everyone for your help!
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    MomentaryGold said:
    MandyMost said:
    If you are planning for them to be already seated, are you planning to do assigned seating at the king's table? I think you should.
    Yes, definitely assigned seating, I think it will just make everything easier. I'll try to seat the SOs near each other though so that they can talk while they wait for the intros. 
    Thanks so much everyone for your help!
    I wouldn't worry about putting them near each other for the intros. Honestly, if they're sitting for more than 2-5 minutes total before the intros are done and their dates are sitting with them, then you're doing something wrong. No one wants to be held as a forced-captive audience for some long, drawn-out intros of people they either 1) already know, or 2) don't really care about, ESPECIALLY since I'm assuming everyone just came from the ceremony, where you got to see everyone, their roles, and the new couple was "introduced" as husband and wife. 
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    MandyMost said:
    MomentaryGold said:
    MandyMost said:
    If you are planning for them to be already seated, are you planning to do assigned seating at the king's table? I think you should.
    Yes, definitely assigned seating, I think it will just make everything easier. I'll try to seat the SOs near each other though so that they can talk while they wait for the intros. 
    Thanks so much everyone for your help!
    I wouldn't worry about putting them near each other for the intros. Honestly, if they're sitting for more than 2-5 minutes total before the intros are done and their dates are sitting with them, then you're doing something wrong. No one wants to be held as a forced-captive audience for some long, drawn-out intros of people they either 1) already know, or 2) don't really care about, ESPECIALLY since I'm assuming everyone just came from the ceremony, where you got to see everyone, their roles, and the new couple was "introduced" as husband and wife. 
    I agree that I would have them seated so they can sit next to their SO.

    If it works out that you can put them across or diagonal from each other, that would work well for conversation. But I wouldn't seat them so they can't be next to their SO for dinner.
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