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Laughter (My biggest wedding fear)

So, I have this small fear when I'm at the alter and the wedding begins. Every time I get nervous I have a super serious giggle attack. I am horrified at the idea of suddenly breaking into giggles during the ceremony, and what people will think if I am up there giggling like a fool.

My FI thinks it's adorable, most of his family has seen me in action and they also are not bothered about it. But still, it's the second most important day of my life, (aside from my daughters birth,) I so don't want my wedding to be remembered because I got nervous and laughed my booty off.
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Re: Laughter (My biggest wedding fear)

  • ei34ei34 member
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    Ditto @drunkenwitch I've seen one or both members of the couple have a giggle attack during the ceremony.  It strikes me as endearing.
  • PP are right I think most ppl will find it endearing of giggle too. You might not even have to worry about it though. I cry through every wedding I've been to and weddings on TV and sometimes commercials with weddings in them. It's bad and it's usually not just being teary it's like ugly crying. So I was scared to death that would happen at the alter but it didn't. I did tear up a bit during SILs reading and our vows but it wasn't bad at all and I think only DH noticed. I'd much rather giggle than ugly cry so I think you're set either way!
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  • SP29SP29 member
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    PP are right I think most ppl will find it endearing of giggle too. You might not even have to worry about it though. I cry through every wedding I've been to and weddings on TV and sometimes commercials with weddings in them. It's bad and it's usually not just being teary it's like ugly crying. So I was scared to death that would happen at the alter but it didn't. I did tear up a bit during SILs reading and our vows but it wasn't bad at all and I think only DH noticed. I'd much rather giggle than ugly cry so I think you're set either way!
    Similarly, I have cried at every wedding I have attended (and often watched in movies/ TV) but not at my own wedding! I think I was too focused on what needed to be done, walking in a straight line, not too fast, saying the words right ;)

    I wouldn't be put off if you started giggling. I agree- endearing.
  • I wouldn't worry about this, especially if your FI thinks it's cute and it doesn't bother your family. A wedding is a happy occasion, so I think a little laughter is completely appropriate!
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  • If laughing is your biggest fear for your wedding I'd say life was going pretty well. Lighten up, this sounds like it would be sweet in the moment!
                 
  • You all have made me feel so much better. I'm not sure why that one thing had me in a panic, but now I am reassured that I won't look completely crazy if it happens. Thank you all for your kind responses.
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  • I had a giggle fit at the altar. I didn't think twice of it, even though it was in the middle of my vows. One of DH's oldest friends (whom I had never met) came up to me after and commented to me how awesome it was that it happened because DH had started to look like he was about to get teary and emotional and I had helped to ground him and settle him. And that was how he knew we were perfect for each other. 


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  • Not sure if you can tell in my sig pic, but we're all cracking up in the one pic because I messed up the vows. It was one of our favorite moments at the ceremony. If you laugh, you laugh. Don't stress over it. 
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  • AtomicBlonde and AddieCake  - I feel so much better knowing that this has happened before. Awsome pictures Addie  :)  That's such an awesome story. Atomic, I worried I would giggle through the vows. Now I am not so worried, it would be a funny story and we would have some pretty special pictures.  
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  • kvrunskvruns member
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    I couldn't get H's ring on his finger during the ceremony. I tried and it was stuck (his hand must have swelled a bit). He was whispering "keep pushing keep pushing" and I was trying and started laughing, and even like bent over laughing. No one heard him but me so they weren't entirely sure what was going on other than they could tell I was laughing.
  • We had a really funny and awesome officiant, so there was lots of laughter at our wedding! I personally would think it would be awesome if you giggled while up at the altar, it's a happy occasion!
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  • I had similar fear, because every rehearsal of 'vows' we had I would start crying. I had an emotional time, so it all kind of bubbled up then. But as @drunkenwitch said, people will start giggling WITH you and it makes it feel less awkward :)
  • I think you have the most adorable problem ever.  Enjoy your wedding, it sounds it like it may be unforgettable.
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  • Honestly, I hope something funny happens at my wedding so I can laugh instead of cry happy tears in front of everyone.  It could go both ways for me.  I love seeing wedding bloopers of the couple laughing about something.

  • I will add my voice to the chorus of people who think it would be charming if you laughed during your ceremony/vows.  It's a happy occasion; happiness is nothing to be ashamed of!  I was MOH in a wedding where the bride let out a little giggle, and it was sweet and lovely.  
  • Some of my favourite weddings have had giggles at the alter. I can only hope that I giggle instead of major cry at my own wedding.
  • If your FI finds it cute, then I wouldn't worry too much. I think it is sweet when there is laughter and giggles at a wedding. 

    At our wedding, the pastor said something along the lines, "Okay J, repeat after me." DH then said, "Alright!" very assuredly and loud. The pastor was surprised and just smiled. Me and the rest of the guests just started laughing because that is a total DH move and it brought some levity to the ceremony.

    Don't stress over it!

  • Thank you all so much! I am so glad I found this place. Now instead of being worried I am back to being so excited. Everyone here is so understanding and helpful.  :)
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  • I laughed while crying during my ceremony - everyone told me afterwards it was really sweet. At one point during the vows I was laughing so hard I could barely get the words out!
  • This will make you feel better.

    https://youtu.be/I3E9U3GDrmI

  • I say be yourself and let the laughter fly. You FI loves you and the giggles, it is natural and never try to hide what makes you special and your day unique.
  • This will make you feel better.

    https://youtu.be/I3E9U3GDrmI

    I love that picture! I also love that the giggles won't be viewed as me not taking the ceremony seriously. Thank you for sharing the pic.
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