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Do I have to give my bridesmaid a plus 1?

Knottie1456058884Knottie1456058884 member
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edited June 2016 in Wedding Etiquette Forum
My best friend from childhood is going to be one of the bridesmaids at my wedding.  She is not dating anyone and would most likely only bring a random friend who is a girl instead of a date if I gave her a plus one.  She knows plenty of people at the wedding and her whole immediate family is invited as well.

All of the other bridesmaids have SO, do I need to extend a plus one to this bridesmaid?
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  • charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
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    Knottie1456058884 said:
    My best friend from childhood is going to be one of the bridesmaids at my wedding.  She is not dating anyone and would most likely only bring a random friend who is a girl instead of a date if I gave her a plus one.  She knows plenty of people at the wedding and her whole immediate family is invited as well.

    All of the other bridesmaids have SO, do I need to extend a plus one to this bridesmaid?
    I think it's a really nice thing to do for your wedding party. No you don't have to, but if this is your childhood best friend and she'd be happiest bringing someone with her, what's the problem? Who cares if it's a friend not a date.
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  • thisismynickname2thisismynickname2 member
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    Agree with Charlotte; plus, if you're early in your planning, remember she might have an SO by the time of your wedding. It would be wise to plan for her to bring someone. 
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  • KnickerGoldKnickerGold member
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    Yes. She may have a SO by the time of your wedding, so I would plan for one!
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  • ei34ei34 member
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    If your budget/the venue size allows for it, I'd definitely extend her a plus one.  As PP mentioned, she may be in a relationship by your wedding.  Even if she's not, it's certainly a nice gesture to extend to your childhood best friend/someone important enough to you to make a BM.
    My bridesmaid was single, and had her parents and our mutual friends were at my wedding too, and she was invited with a plus one and brought a good (girl) friend.  It didn't have any impact on my marriage or the reception. 
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  • auriannaaurianna member
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    You don't have to give her a +1 but considering she's taking extra time to participate in your wedding and likely buying a dress, it would be very nice for you to do.
    Also, if you are doing a head table, and all your other BMs are sitting with their SOs and she's the only one up there without someone she's close to, dinner may be awkward/boring for her.
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  • levioosalevioosa member
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    You technically don't have to, but it would really be nice of you to do. It doesn't matter if the plus one is a platonic friend or a date. 


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  • MesmrEweMesmrEwe member
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    Technically speaking you don't, however, she's in your WP - extend the +1, it's the polite thing to do... 

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