My closest friend and I are both getting married in the next 4 months. Her bridal shower is in her hometown- about 2 hours by plane. She told me before I even got my invite to her bridal shower 'not to worry about coming' - as I'd have to fly, get a hotel, etc and I'm flying for the wedding/missing work and flew for the bachelorette. Ok with me!
Well, come to find out later that there is going to be a bridal shower hosted for me where I & other bride currently live. I wasn't thinking I'd have one, so not going to hers didn't seem like a big deal, and I honestly didn't think about getting her a gift since I wasn't attending (maybe I was wrong there? I'm unsure)
Now I'm wondering, should I send a gift for her bridal shower? Where do I send it?? She said she's coming to my shower, so I now feel uncomfortable not getting her a gift/not attending (although it's now too late for me to attend as it's next weekend and flights are stupidly expensive)
Re: Bridal shower gift if not attending?
If you want to give her a shower gift, you may bring it with you when you fly out for your shower or order from the registry and have it delivered.
Yourenever required to give a gift, but in this case, with it being someone you're close to, why not?this year I've missed my sisters shower, my SILs, and Hs cousin's shower, but sent something because these are people I love and if I didn't live hundreds of miles away I would have celebrated in person.
The shower is being hosted by a few of her aunts who up til this point have made it clear they do NOT like her, or her mother (her Dad's sisters), and it's at a hotel, so I think sending it to her house would be best!
Second question- since I've never been to a bridal shower- do I get something off of their registry? Or something else? Their registries have items within my price range, but I feel weird *just* sending one $45 potato masher, or a $60 set of wooden spoons, when I could go off registry and get her a few things...
I never send gifts if I don't attend the shower although that just mean my wedding gift is bigger since I always just take my budget and split it between the events.
I won't judge you for just getting the $45 potato masher or the $60 wooden spoons but I sure as hell judge the couple for registering for them.
It was pretty funny going through their registry... so many cooking items, yet neither cooks!
My cousin was like this. They are a super nice couple, but totally clueless. They both admit that neither cooks but there were pages and pages and pages of totally impractical but pretty stuff. Like $100 slate cutting boards.
That said, gifts aren't tit for tat. You aren't required to get her anything just because she is coming to yours. Don't over think this. If you want to get her something - do it. If not - don't.
Don't feel bad about buying something "small" when the price is so high. The couple must expect this. I'm all about quality, but at the same time, the B&G can't expect their guests to accommodate that... or at least realize they might get ONE item from each guest.
Holy Man! Those prices are insane, and ridiculous if the couple doesn't even really cook! I cook, and have for 38 years of marriage. Still using all my good ol' Revere Ware that I received at my showers.
Sigh....I just depressed myself just a little with those numbers.......
ETA.....sorry for the slight derail......