Plus one trouble

Re: Plus one trouble

• charlotte989875 member

  

  June 2016

  Knottie98990239 said:

  My maid-of-honor's sister is invited to my wedding and she will most likely get a plus one (our wedding is a little less than a year away, we haven't even sent save the dates yet). The sister's best friend, a girl I work with, has convinced her to make her the plus one instead of this sister's boyfriend so that she can come to my wedding (she wasn't going to be invited). I don't really want her there. I'm not sure what to do. Do I have any control over who she brings? Plus ones don't really work that way, right?

  If the sister has a boyfriend he's not a plus one he's a significant other and he should be invited, by name, along with sister on the invitation. If, when invites go out she asks if she can bring the friend instead of her boyfriend you can say the invite was for her and him, no one else. 
  
  If she doesn't have a boyfriend when invites go out you can choose to allow her to bring a guest, but you can't put stipulations on who that guest can be. 

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• ILoveBeachMusic member

  

  June 2016

  Ok, I think you have some terms confused here. A true plus one is given to a person who is not in a relationship. Anyone who is in a relationship should have their SO invited by name to the wedding. Therefore since the sister has a boyfriend, he should be invited by name. Sister will not get a plus one since her SO is invited. Problem solved - co-worker won't be invited!

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• SP29 member

  

  June 2016

  ILoveBeachMusic said:

  Ok, I think you have some terms confused here. A true plus one is given to a person who is not in a relationship. Anyone who is in a relationship should have their SO invited by name to the wedding. Therefore since the sister has a boyfriend, he should be invited by name. Sister will not get a plus one since her SO is invited. Problem solved - co-worker won't be invited!

  To add to this- a plus one is given to a guest who is truly single, and that guest is allowed to bring anyone of their choosing- a date, friend, family member. Thus, plus ones are never required, but a nice gesture.
  
  Inviting a guest's significant other is always required.
  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  June 2016

  Thanks everyone! I feel better

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• LtPowers member

  

  June 2016

  All guests should be invited explicitly by name. This allows you complete control over your guest list and allows you to avoid worrying about who a guest might bring with them.
  
  
  Powers  &8^]
  
  

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