How many speeches or toasts are customary? My future FIL has asked if he can speak at the wedding and we're debating about it for a few reasons.
So far, my brother is doing the MCing for the event because the band wasn't crazy about doing intros and welcoming people. He's handing the mic off to MOH, who will give a brief speech and toast, will hand off to the BM, who will do the same.
We are debating whether to say ok to my FIL.
My parents aren't speaking (they haven't asked, though I have a feeling my mom would like to). My future MIL is not speaking and she and my future FIL don't have a good relationship. I'm worried about my parents feeling slighted and my future MIL being angry. FI is less worried about this.
Both of us are also worried that my future FIL will be really long winded and that we have enough speeches already and this will delay dinner or bore the guests or both. As much as we could encourage him to be brief, we know it isn't likely that will happen.
Thoughts? Is it bad to have him speak at another time- after dinner or at the band's set break?
If it matters, we're splitting the cost of the wedding with future FIL and my parents, three ways evenly.