Ok- I have been lurking on the boards long enough to see this saying and understand the meaning. But can someone help clarify to what
extent? My situation- when me and FI were engaged, FFIL gave a generous engagement gift of $1000 to "help us begin our savings account." He knows we are paying for our wedding ourselves- he is also our banker, so he also knows how much money we have at all times (this makes me uncomfortable, but when we started our first checking account together 3 years ago there, I didn't think the lack of privacy through as FI has always used this bank). ANYWAY, back to my original question
When our total wedding cost is $35,000, how much say does his FFIL get in wedding plans after giving that $1000 engagement gift? Does the amount or percentage of total cost even matter in the idea of "those who pay get a say?" Do any and all contributions get a say in all aspects? I'd love to hear some input on this one!