Oh no! Sex and the City Situation!

MOHofEEW · April 2012

Ok, maybe not quite. I saw a photo of the ring and it's not my style! I so delighted but how on earth do I fix this situation? How do I tell him what I like without ruining the surprise?

jagore08 · April 2012

You don't. If you tell him that you saw the ring before he proposed you might deflate his confidence before he even gets the chance to propose. Once he does propose give yourself some time with the ring. I didn't like my ring at first because it wasn't what I thought I wanted. It took a few weeks (and a couple of glasses of wine) when I realized how much I loved it.

peachykeen26 · April 2012

I agree with PP.
I even picked out my ring and wasn't sure about it. It's a big change and a big adjustment. Once you start seeing it everyday and you start getting compliments on it, you will love it.
And remember, its not about the ring, its about his promise for marriage and his commitment.

cmgefert · April 2012

In Response to Re: Oh no! Sex and the City Situation!:
[QUOTE And remember, its not about the ring, its about his promise for marriage and his commitment.
Posted by peachykeen26[/QUOTE]

This exactly! He picked it out for you based on who you are and what he thinks about your relationship together. Over time you will love it!

mymissingpuzzlepiece · April 2012

I agree with jagore.

rlpunches · April 2012

Try to keep in mind how hard it is for him to ask you to be his forever. It is very nerve racking for many men.
Also remember that he picked a ring just for you and no other woman. Give it time. Don't react right away. Just try to enjoy the moment of getting engaged. It is the best few minutes ever!

carrieloomis · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_oh-no-sex-and-the-city-situation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:3fad41f7-fdd0-41c6-96e0-3b54a5879cf7Post:7786f35b-ad4c-4e67-b9ea-bb669011b417">Re: Oh no! Sex and the City Situation!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Oh no! Sex and the City Situation! : Haha, I love it - but seriously, I would just wait. <strong>Remember, pictures can sometimes look NOTHING like the real thing on your finger. </strong>Who knows? You could love it when it's on - and if you absolutely, absolutely hate it, you can discuss it with your FI and get something new.
Posted by MayberryAfterMidnight[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I 100% agree and can't even tell you how true this is! My ring looks horrible in pictures. TERRIBLE. In person, it looks stunning. I remember seeing it online when I was wishing and thinking "god, that's ugly." When we actually went to pick out a ring, I loved it and didn't realize it was the same ring until I stumbled upon the picture on pinterest. </div>

mercy4 · April 2012

Sign off and relax. Be thankful someone loves you enough to pick out a ring with care. And sign up again once you're engaged.

ourwedding111111 · April 2012

I agree with the previous posts. I wouldn't say anything, I'm sure that he put a lot of thought into the ring he chose for you. As tough as men are, this is one situation where they are very vulnerable and put a lot of pressure on themselves to find the "right" ring. I would let him propose and give yourself time with the ring. I want to say that there was a post from someone who got married around the time that I did and when her fiancé proposed, she said she hated the ring and they went back and forth about it. She got a new one and then later decided that she liked the original one that he proposed with but it was too late. My husband actually proposed before he had a ring, he wanted to find the right ring...something that was very "me" he said and he wouldn't settle for anything less. He hadn't found a ring, but didnt want to wait any longer. After he proposed, we were looking for wedding bands online and he saw one that he felt was me to a T. It's not at all a traditional band, but it's stunning nonetheless. It's an open leaf design. We were married in Autumn, it's my favorite season. I love leaves and flowers...it was totally me. Because we couldn't find an engagement ring to go with the band, he designed one himself.

enchantedonyx · April 2012

I picked out a beautiful ring and even sent FI a link to it saying "this is what I want". I knew he had his mom's engagement ring, though and thought I hated it.

So, he proposed with mom's ring, saying "it won't fit, and if you don't like it, I'll get the other one"

It fit perfectly and I told him I wanted to give it a day or so on if I wanted the other ring.

When he puts a wedding band on my hand in 28 days, it is the band that matches my amazing, gorgeous, vintage ring with a history behind it, not the ring I thought I wanted. I can't imagine wearing a different engagement ring now and it's away (being cleaned and plated for the big day) and I miss it!

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