Bridesmaid leaving early??

Re: Bridesmaid leaving early??

• ShesSoCold mod

  

  July 2016

  Knottie1452636104 said:

  Just wanting a general consensus...
  I just heard my bridesmaid is planning on leaving the reception early for her 17th wedding anniversary.  Unfortunately, when we decided on the date, she didn't say anything to me (even though she went venue browsing with us) until the deposit was paid. When I asked her to be in my wedding, I asked if it was okay because it was her anniversary and she said it was fine and agreed to be my BM. (I asked her in February and my wedding is March 2017)  My ceremony is planned for 6pm and the reception will only go to 1030 pm.  Is it wrong of me to be upset about her leaving early? 
  
  I am having a destination wedding in Vegas so we have family and friends all flying or driving in.  So all the guests will also be shuttled to and from the venue.  I have planned a shuttle for 9 pm and 1030 pm.  She plans on leaving as soon as the entrance is done...  

  
  I don't want to tell you how to feel but yeah I think you need to let this go. It's her time and her day too and she can do whatever she wants.

  
  

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• VarunaTT member

  

  July 2016

  Knottie1452636104 said:

  Is it wrong of me to be upset about her leaving early?   

  
  Yes.

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• pixegurl member

  

  July 2016

  LOL!  ok, I'll let it go

  
  

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• sparklepants41 member

  

  July 2016

  Yes, OP, you are wrong. After the entrance at the reception is a perfectly acceptable time for her to leave to celebrate her anniversary.
  
  After all, you are asking her to stand up with you during the ceremony where you make a lifelong, meaningful, legal commitment to your FI. 
  
  It is only fair and courteous that you honor and respect the same commitment she and her spouse made to each other that very day 17 years prior.

  

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• charlotte989875 member

  

  July 2016

  Knottie1452636104 said:

  Just wanting a general consensus...
  I just heard my bridesmaid is planning on leaving the reception early for her 17th wedding anniversary.  Unfortunately, when we decided on the date, she didn't say anything to me (even though she went venue browsing with us) until the deposit was paid. When I asked her to be in my wedding, I asked if it was okay because it was her anniversary and she said it was fine and agreed to be my BM. (I asked her in February and my wedding is March 2017)  My ceremony is planned for 6pm and the reception will only go to 1030 pm.  Is it wrong of me to be upset about her leaving early? 
  
  I am having a destination wedding in Vegas so we have family and friends all flying or driving in.  So all the guests will also be shuttled to and from the venue.  I have planned a shuttle for 9 pm and 1030 pm.  She plans on leaving as soon as the entrance is done...  

  She's going to stand up beside you as you get married, that's the important part of being a bridesmaid. Remember that. She's traveling to be with you on your wedding day.
  
  I think it's fine to be bummed she's leaving because presumably she's your friend and you want to celebrate with you (in the same way it's fine to be bummed if people can't attend), but after that you need to let it go. Is it a little odd she's not staying for dinner? Sure.  But It's not ok to say something to her or try to tell her to stay longer. 

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• VarunaTT member

  

  July 2016 edited July 2016

  Knottie1452636104 said:

  LOL!  ok, I'll let it go

  This is how these things should go.   Good job, OP.
  
  
  

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• pixegurl member

  

  July 2016

  OK, I can get over it.  I am pretty bummed she's leaving early.  Thanks for understanding.  

  
  

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• glasgowtolondon member

  

  July 2016

  I'd be upset for sure if it were me, OP. I wouldn't say anything to her though. I'd have a little pity party for one and then I'd move on because in the scheme of things it means nothing. She loves you enough to stand up with you as you get married, and it's not like you'll spend much time with her at the reception anyway. This way you kind of both get what you want out of the day.

               

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• pixegurl member

  

  July 2016

  Very true.  Thanks for giving me a new way to look at things!  I have enough to stress about!  

  
  

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• thefanciestbeckler member

  

  July 2016

  Oh I like you, OP. You should stick around.

  
  

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