Inviting boss(es)?

OurWildKingdom · July 2016

FW brought up earlier that she wants to invite my boss and my boss' boss, but my first inclination was not to invite anyone from work because a) it's tricky to pick circles (just the site I work on? Just support staff?) and b) if we invited everyone (including spouses/SOs and children), that would easily add at least 50+ people to our guest count, which is way out of our budget. Inviting my boss and her husband and daughter would be no big deal financially, but I have no idea how many people would be coming with her boss.

I'm quite happy with our guest list as it is, but should we add my boss, too?

ILoveBeachMusic · July 2016

I wouldn't invite them if you don't feel close enough to them to have them there.

lyndausvi · July 2016

In your case I wouldn't.

Jen4948 · July 2016

If you don't have a social relationship with your bosses, I see no reason to invite them.

charlotte989875 · July 2016

I had a close relationship with my advisor (who was also my boss) as well as an admin in our office. I socialized with them outside of work and had a friendship with them after I left the university. I invited them. If you wouldn't otherwise invite them to a dinner party I think you can leave them off the list.

OurWildKingdom · July 2016

Thanks everyone! We are a pretty close-knit team, but I've only socialized with a couple of people away from work, and that was at work-related events.

AddieCake · July 2016

I wouldn't.

SP29 · July 2016

I wouldn't.

My stance on co-workers or bosses is not to invite them unless you consider them a friend outside of work.

SaintPaulGal · July 2016

I'm dreading the "whom to invite from work" decision myself. There are 8 other people on my team, and we all work together very closely. Outside of my department, there are three other people with whom I would consider myself particularly friendly, each one in a different department. Plus there is a very nice lady in a different department but whose office is located in my department, as well as the big boss who also offices here. We work in an industry related to events, so there is a higher-than-average degree of interest and curiosity in something like a fellow employee's wedding. Oy. At least I have time to figure this stuff out.

Sorry I don't have an answer for you, OP. Good luck!

kvruns · July 2016

I invited my boss because I've hung out with her and her husband socially but had we never had an outside of work relationship I would not have.

NBSquared2017 · July 2016

I will not be inviting my boss. One of the main reasons is because I work at a small agency, and I would fell like I would have to invite everyone. I do not spend much time outside of work with him, so I don't think it is a big deal to not extend the invite.

One thing to note: I do not talk about my wedding at all while I am at work. I would not want anyone to feel uncomfortable or look forward to an invitation that's not coming.

OurWildKingdom · July 2016

NBSquared2017 said:

I will not be inviting my boss. One of the main reasons is because I work at a small agency, and I would fell like I would have to invite everyone. I do not spend much time outside of work with him, so I don't think it is a big deal to not extend the invite.

One thing to note: I do not talk about my wedding at all while I am at work. I would not want anyone to feel uncomfortable or look forward to an invitation that's not coming.

I avoid talking about it at work too. Before I knew better, I talked a little about it but not a ton of details. Now I don't talk about it unless I'm asked directly, and then I just say the planning is going well.

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