Terrific Tuesday

Heffalump · July 2016

Maybe? Let's hope.

DS woke up at 5:00. I heard him crying, and when I went to his room, he was standing in his bed. I asked what was wrong, and he said "The bumblebee ate me up!" in this half-terrified, half-outraged tone. Scooped him up, tucked him between Mr. Heff and me, and managed to doze 'til the alarm, even with DS's head on my back.

Wooz has a field trip to one of her favorite parks today. DH was a bit frazzled loading everyone up after being off for several days, so I told Wooz to grab her stuff and put it in the car. A few minutes later, I ran back in to grab my salad and found her lunchbox on the floor. Tried to catch them, and of course they were already pulling away. Called DH, he wasn't picking up. Then I finally caught him after I was on my way, and he's all "Meet me in the CVS parking lot" like I'm his dealer or something. I was trying to explain that I took a different [better!] route, and somehow he wasn't getting it, so then he was frustrated and I was frustrated and we ended up meeting in the DC parking lot. (I got there first, even though I left later, because again, my way is better.)

After things like that, I truly appreciate how quiet my office is. So very quiet.

kimmiinthemitten · July 2016

I'm procrastinating today (opposed to the mornings where I pop on to say I'm highly motivated, oh right, those don't happen)!

Last night I spray painted 15 more bottles and a Mr and Mrs sign for the chairs. I can't feel my right pointer finger tip and I'm covered in gold glitter. Should make for an interesting meeting with an OEM this morning.

My sisters best friend (who is also a college sorority sister of mine) works for a company based here and she always stays at a hotel less than 2 miles from my house. This time, they paid to fly her husband here with her too (they're trying to convince them to relocate) and they're coming over for dinner tonight so that will be fun! As much as my sis drives me crazy, I'd love for her to move home and I joke that moving friend and her H here is the first step. So I need to do a killer job on the basement part of the tour, complete with sports memorabilia, because in Michigan you can have a basement and do these things!

charlotte989875 · July 2016

I took the dog to his new dog park (the one we had to apply to and pay a membership fee to) yesterday and he played so hard with other dogs I thought I broke him. He just laid on the kitchen floor for an hour and half when we got home.

Also, I just got an email from the department secretary telling me all the bookshelves, that I just filled with hundreds of books yesterday, collapsed. I'm going to view the carnage shortly, I just hope there are some survivors.

mrsconn23 · July 2016

DefConn peed the bed at 3:45a. Then when I was trying to fall back asleep, I had an attack of the doubts about...oh everything.

Prime day is a ruse. The only thing I see that I have any interested in is an instant pot and I really, really don't *need* one.

DH and I do need to get a new suitcase. We went to the Samsonite outlet and saw a few bags we liked. I'm shopping ebags and amazon to see if we can get a good deal.

I also need to pull the trigger and place my swimsuit order. I have 5 in my bag and keep hemming and hawing...like they can't be returned.

DH is talking about taking the kids on a boys camping trip the weekend after we get back from Hawaii. Do I do a GNO or a spa day while they're away?

6fsn · July 2016

I told the kids we'd go to the park and pool today, but I have got to get some stuff done first. We're out of town for 3 days and I need to pack, finish up some work, a contractor is coming to do drywall work tonight, blah blah. But they keep following me around asking for stupid shit. I couldn't even brush my teeth without someone crying that the cd player wasn't working. (the volume was turned down.)

kimmiinthemitten · July 2016

mrs.conn23 said:

DH is talking about taking the kids on a boys camping trip the weekend after we get back from Hawaii. Do I do a GNO or a spa day while they're away?

Both!

Heffalump · July 2016

mrs.conn23 said:

DefConn peed the bed at 3:45a. Then when I was trying to fall back asleep, I had an attack of the doubts about...oh everything.

Prime day is a ruse. The only thing I see that I have any interested in is an instant pot and I really, really don't *need* one.

I was having those doubts all last week. I would wake up at 4:00/4:30 without fail. Figures that now that I've stopped, DS would wake up instead.

And yeah, Prime Day is a whole lotta nothin' for me, so far.

6fsn said:

I told the kids we'd go to the park and pool today, but I have got to get some stuff done first. We're out of town for 3 days and I need to pack, finish up some work, a contractor is coming to do drywall work tonight, blah blah. But they keep following me around asking for stupid shit. I couldn't even brush my teeth without someone crying that the cd player wasn't working. (the volume was turned down.)

I feel ya, this ^^ was us at dinner last night and it was driving me bonkers.

"I don't like this rice, I like the other rice."

"I pease have more peaches?"

"What kind of sauce is this on the chicken?"

"I pease have more milk?"

"I don't like the vegetables all mixed up, I like when it's only one kind."

"I pease have more rice?"

"How many vegetables do I have to eat to get a treat?"

[DS crying] "I drop my fork!"

[crash, DD crying] "I spilled my milk!"

[DS crying] "You get milk on my fork!"

[all 3 of us crying]

charlotte989875 · July 2016

Count me in for Prime Day being a ruse. I just don't think the deals are all that good. I love Amazon normally, but lately I'm feeling like being a Prime member just isn't worth the money.

AddieCake · July 2016

I'm doing a book study for work, so I'm working on the assignments for that today.

bleve0821 · July 2016

Prime Day. Thousands of items and nothing in my cart. Because my fave running shoes are, quite literally, the ONLY Asics brand NOT on sale today. And the only item I really need, A CAN OPENER, is not one of the THOUSANDS of items available.

I made spaghetti last night. And mini meatloaves. I was in the kitchen from 4:30 until 9. All I wanted was chicken for dinner. But DH wanted me to "use the ground beef we bought" because he has some weird phobia about freezing food (because the meat we buy is ALWAYS fresh <sarcasm>.... and yet he's okay with frozen spaghetti sauce. The man is a walking enigma.), so I spent my evening in the kitchen. But I digress.

I don't mind cooking. I like it, find it relaxing. But last night..... Last night, I wanted to cut a bitch. I quadrupled the spaghetti batch, and the motor in the electric can opener burned out somewhere between the first and second can of diced tomatoes I opened, and the hand opener broke after the 4th can. I don't know how I opened the remaining 16 cans of tomatoes, but I'm pretty sure the red I was seeing was not spaghetti sauce.

AND THERE ARE NO CAN OPENERS ON PRIME DAY. I feel so betrayed.

tawillers · July 2016

Good morning. I'm getting back to normal after our baseball weekend. We left Friday for the state tournament and got back late Sunday (with a state title!). I had to go pick up the girls from my parents' house and try to get everyone unpacked yesterday.

Today I'm working. I need to take DD2 to pick out a birthday cake this afternoon. She will be FIVE (!!!) on Friday and we're having her party on Sunday.

6fsn · July 2016

It was a disaster trying to get to a park program today. Stupid traffic. Finally make it and realize we've already been to this one. I still need to go to Walmart today to pick up an order. Ugh.

Heffalump · July 2016

tawillers said:

Good morning. I'm getting back to normal after our baseball weekend. We left Friday for the state tournament and got back late Sunday (with a state title!). I had to go pick up the girls from my parents' house and try to get everyone unpacked yesterday.
Today I'm working. I need to take DD2 to pick out a birthday cake this afternoon. She will be FIVE (!!!) on Friday and we're having her party on Sunday.

Congrats to Son--that's awesome! And happy birthday to DD2!

*Barbie* · July 2016

mrs.conn23 said:

DH is talking about taking the kids on a boys camping trip the weekend after we get back from Hawaii. Do I do a GNO or a spa day while they're away?

Both

mrsconn23 · July 2016

I really, really want Jimmy Johns for lunch. But I don't want to get any for the kids. It's an impossible proposition, but I can't stop thinking about it.

VarunaTT · July 2016

I love living downtown, but if they don't stop all the damn road work, I'm going to start screaming at someone. Also, they've cut off one access road for some damn artwork mural going in. This Saturday, a big day-long festival is going down the road on one side of my apartment. The road on the other side is one way only and goes the wrong way to get to anything. It's going to be a madhouse to get around downtown and no one seems to have thought about this at all.

Diva is working my nerves. He is now trying to control my day-to-day/hour-to-hour work flow. Like, instead of giving me the assignment deadlines and leaving me alone to do my works, I now get, "I saw on your time entry that you only did half of this and moved to something else. I don't want you to do it that way, I want you to work on this assignment until it's completed, then move to the next one."

NO. Give me the deadline and leave me alone about my hour-to-hour, day-to-day time management. Until I start missing deadlines, you don't need to be all up in my office. This is micromanaging at a level I'm simply unwilling to accept. I guess we'll see how it goes down.

charlotte989875 · July 2016

Office destruction. My books look sad.

bleve0821 · July 2016

My boss just emailed us a list of tasks coming due, and she ended the email with, "We've got a lot of balls in the air at the moment, blah blah blah," but, of course, I stopped reading at "We've got a lot of balls." And I was all O.O OMG WTF NSFW.

It's going to be one of those days, I see...

thefanciestbeckler · July 2016

I am not in a good mood today. At all. DH started working at his old job again while he's hunting for a pilot job. This requires that he gets up at 4 or 5 every morning, which of course he can't do quietly. He hits snooze at least twice and I usually have to wake him up to tell him to turn his alarm off because he will let it go off for literally minutes at a time before hearing it.

Well, his off days are Tuesdays and Wednesdays. So last night I thought to myself "finally a night of uninterrupted sleep!" Nope. He forgot to turn his alarm off before bed so I woke up at 4 am to his alarm going off over and over and over again. OMG I almost cut the man in his sleep. Finally I hit him and yelled "WILL YOU PLEASE TAKE CARE OF THAT?!?!?!?!?!" He grunted, turned his phone off and then rolled over and fell right back to sleep. I laid there awake and mad for a good 30 minutes at least. Not a good start to the day.

It isn't helping any that his job involves running around in the 100 degree weather all day, so he comes home absolutely exhausted and thinks he should get to have "me time" all evening long. I'm getting tired of having an absent husband when I get home from work. It's almost more lonely than having him gone for months at a time. I finally said something to him about it last night and it went much better than expected. He actually said, "you're right, it's not fair to you for me to spend so much time to myself when I get home"!!!! So we will see how this goes moving forward. Hopefully he really took what I said to heart.

Sorry for the novel. I needed to vent about that.

Edited for clarity

bleve0821 · July 2016

thefanciestbeckler said:

I am not in a good mood today. At all. DH started working at his old job again while he's hunting for a pilot job. This requires that he gets up at 4 or 5 every morning, which of course he can't do quietly. He hits snooze at least twice and I usually have to wake him up to tell him to turn his alarm off because he will let it go off for literally minutes at a time before hearing it.
Well, his off days are Tuesdays and Wednesdays. So last night I thought to myself "finally a night of uninterrupted sleep!" Nope. He forgot to turn his alarm off before bed so I woke up at 4 am to his alarm going off over and over and over again. OMG I almost cut the man in his sleep. Finally I hit him and yelled "WILL YOU PLEASE TAKE CARE OF THAT?!?!?!?!?!" He grunted, turned his phone off and then rolled over and fell right back to sleep. I laid there awake and mad for a good 30 minutes at least. Not a good start to the day.
It isn't helping any that his job involves running around in the 100 degree weather all day, so he comes home absolutely exhausted and thinks he should get to have "me time" all evening long. I'm getting tired of having an absent husband when I get home from work. It's almost more lonely than having him gone for months at a time. I finally said something to him about it last night and it went much better than expected. He actually said, "you're right, it's not fair to you for me to spend so much time to myself when I get home"!!!! So we will see how this goes moving forward. Hopefully he really took what I said to heart.
Sorry for the novel. I needed to vent about that.

Edited for clarity

((Hugs)) I completely understand, @thefanciestbeckler. DH, while we were dating, worked a labor-intensive job and would always come home exhausted and wanting just some quiet time. We were in a LDR, so on Fridays, after he or I drove through DC/NOVA traffic to see each other, this really upset me. I understood his need to decompress, I promise I did, but sometimes, it was just too much. I got three days a week, if I was lucky (and a lot of times we didn't see each other for weeks at a time), and it stung because I felt like it wasn't enough to just sit with me, he had to have separate him time. It was an incredibly isolating feeling.

He works a desk job now, but it's as mentally exhausting as his old job was physically, so we've come to a compromise where he decompresses however he needs to for about an hour while I do some housework or cook. Not my favorite (given our work/sleep schedules are way out of sync), but it did take us 3 years to get to this point (but I communicate my feelings with all of the intelligence of a slug, so, there's that), so I really hope things work out for you.

thefanciestbeckler · July 2016

AtomicBlonde said:

thefanciestbeckler said:

I am not in a good mood today. At all. DH started working at his old job again while he's hunting for a pilot job. This requires that he gets up at 4 or 5 every morning, which of course he can't do quietly. He hits snooze at least twice and I usually have to wake him up to tell him to turn his alarm off because he will let it go off for literally minutes at a time before hearing it.
Well, his off days are Tuesdays and Wednesdays. So last night I thought to myself "finally a night of uninterrupted sleep!" Nope. He forgot to turn his alarm off before bed so I woke up at 4 am to his alarm going off over and over and over again. OMG I almost cut the man in his sleep. Finally I hit him and yelled "WILL YOU PLEASE TAKE CARE OF THAT?!?!?!?!?!" He grunted, turned his phone off and then rolled over and fell right back to sleep. I laid there awake and mad for a good 30 minutes at least. Not a good start to the day.
It isn't helping any that his job involves running around in the 100 degree weather all day, so he comes home absolutely exhausted and thinks he should get to have "me time" all evening long. I'm getting tired of having an absent husband when I get home from work. It's almost more lonely than having him gone for months at a time. I finally said something to him about it last night and it went much better than expected. He actually said, "you're right, it's not fair to you for me to spend so much time to myself when I get home"!!!! So we will see how this goes moving forward. Hopefully he really took what I said to heart.
Sorry for the novel. I needed to vent about that.

Edited for clarity

((Hugs)) I completely understand, @thefanciestbeckler. DH, while we were dating, worked a labor-intensive job and would always come home exhausted and wanting just some quiet time. We were in a LDR, so on Fridays, after he or I drove through DC/NOVA traffic to see each other, this really upset me. I understood his need to decompress, I promise I did, but sometimes, it was just too much. I got three days a week, if I was lucky (and a lot of times we didn't see each other for weeks at a time), and it stung because I felt like it wasn't enough to just sit with me, he had to have separate him time. It was an incredibly isolating feeling.

He works a desk job now, but it's as mentally exhausting as his old job was physically, so we've come to a compromise where he decompresses however he needs to for about an hour while I do some housework or cook. Not my favorite (given our work/sleep schedules are way out of sync), but it did take us 3 years to get to this point (but I communicate my feelings with all of the intelligence of a slug, so, there's that), so I really hope things work out for you.

Thank you so much for sharing that with me @AtomicBlonde! It really helps to know that somebody understands. I do totally understand that he needs time to himself to unwind, and I'm 100% cool with it. I've known since the very beginning of our relationship that he needs that. BUT... he gets off work 3 hours earlier than I do and has the house completely to himself during that time. It was really starting to hurt my feelings that his "me time" was lasting the entire evening on top of the 3 hours he gets to himself in the afternoon. Thankfully he totally saw where I was coming from so I'm hoping we can come up with a good compromise. Thank you again for understanding and sharing your story! I needed to hear that today

charlotte989875 · July 2016

I totally get it @thefanciestbeckler. When H and I first moved in together we were in our last year of grad school and applying for jobs, so super stressful. My H is also an introvert so his happy space is being alone not talking to anyone. I'm an extrovert. It took us a long time to figure out a good balance.

One thing that helped us was to be really specific when talking about the problem was. When I would say "I'm hurt when you come home and don't say anything" he had a hard time understanding what I meant/needed because he didn't see quiet time as a bad thing or understand that I needed us to spend time together. But if I said "It made me feel bad like you didn't want to spend time with me Thursday when you came home and went in the living room and only had one word answers when I talked" it seemed to be better. There were specific times and places and I said exactly why it hurt my feelings (you didn't answer me, you went in without talking to me, made me feel like you were mad/I did something wrong, etc).

I also had had to learn that him being quiet/alone wasn't about me, it was about him. And he had to learn I needed him to acknowledge we needed to leave work at work and spend some (not all) of our time together. Good luck, you're definitely not alone in this.

tigerlily6 · July 2016

charlotte989875 said:

I totally get it @thefanciestbeckler. When H and I first moved in together we were in our last year of grad school and applying for jobs, so super stressful. My H is also an introvert so his happy space is being alone not talking to anyone. I'm an extrovert. It took us a long time to figure out a good balance.

One thing that helped us was to be really specific when talking about the problem was. When I would say "I'm hurt when you come home and don't say anything" he had a hard time understanding what I meant/needed because he didn't see quiet time as a bad thing or understand that I needed us to spend time together. But if I said "It made me feel bad like you didn't want to spend time with me Thursday when you came home and went in the living room and only had one word answers when I talked" it seemed to be better. There were specific times and places and I said exactly why it hurt my feelings (you didn't answer me, you went in without talking to me, made me feel like you were mad/I did something wrong, etc).

I also had had to learn that him being quiet/alone wasn't about me, it was about him. And he had to learn I needed him to acknowledge we needed to leave work at work and spend some (not all) of our time together. Good luck, you're definitely not alone in this.

This sounds so much like me and DH it's a it's a bit scary. We've been together now as a couple for almost 7 years and most of the larger arguments we've had in that time have been over issues of expressing affection at the end of the day. When I'm tired and low, I want to cuddle and talk about life. I'm a big verbalizer, and hearing "I love you" is relaxing and comforting -- not because I doubt he does, but it just feels good to have it said. I say it all the time (and was definitely the first person in the relationship to utter the L word).

DH is a thinker and shows love by actions and behavior -- he's 110% dedicated, sincere, and when he does say something I know he's thought it through and means it. But when DH is exhausted, he likes to read by himself, be alone and is SO quiet. He likes to read before sleep, which is fine -- I do too -- but when he's done sometimes he'll just turn off his light, say "goodnight" and roll into the blankets. I can give him that sometimes because I know he's pooped, but when we're both tired it sucks.

Learning how to balance needs still, but we have gotten much better than we used to be.

OurWildKingdom · July 2016

mrs.conn23 said:

DefConn peed the bed at 3:45a. Then when I was trying to fall back asleep, I had an attack of the doubts about...oh everything.

Prime day is a ruse. The only thing I see that I have any interested in is an instant pot and I really, really don't *need* one.

DH and I do need to get a new suitcase. We went to the Samsonite outlet and saw a few bags we liked. I'm shopping ebags and amazon to see if we can get a good deal.

I also need to pull the trigger and place my swimsuit order. I have 5 in my bag and keep hemming and hawing...like they can't be returned.

DH is talking about taking the kids on a boys camping trip the weekend after we get back from Hawaii. Do I do a GNO or a spa day while they're away?

Yes. Both.

ChelleJayne · July 2016

Work has been crazy for the past 2 weeks, hence my absence. It was end of FY and my supervisor decided it was a good time for a vacation. So I was doing her job and mine. 80 hours worth of work in 40 hours, what fun... There was a lot of stuff that didn't get done, but I did my best and my higher ups saw that.

FI and I are supposed to sign our closing docs for our house sometime today. I'm waiting for the call to rush down there with the check. If we sign the papers, we can get our keys on Friday. This has been the longest, most ridiculous process I have ever dealt with. Makes me not want to buy a house ever again. We did our final walk through last night and the house was still full of all the furniture and clothes from the seller. She has until Friday to get her stuff out.

My oldest sister texted me today to let me know that they will be in town this weekend. So, I'll be working a half day on Friday. She said they would be in town about 10, so I figure if I get off work at 11 we will get to my mom's house about the same time because she is ALWAYS late.

ILoveBeachMusic · July 2016

AtomicBlonde said:

Prime Day. Thousands of items and nothing in my cart. Because my fave running shoes are, quite literally, the ONLY Asics brand NOT on sale today. And the only item I really need, A CAN OPENER, is not one of the THOUSANDS of items available.

I made spaghetti last night. And mini meatloaves. I was in the kitchen from 4:30 until 9. All I wanted was chicken for dinner. But DH wanted me to "use the ground beef we bought" because he has some weird phobia about freezing food (because the meat we buy is ALWAYS fresh <sarcasm>.... and yet he's okay with frozen spaghetti sauce. The man is a walking enigma.), so I spent my evening in the kitchen. But I digress.

I don't mind cooking. I like it, find it relaxing. But last night..... Last night, I wanted to cut a bitch. I quadrupled the spaghetti batch, and the motor in the electric can opener burned out somewhere between the first and second can of diced tomatoes I opened, and the hand opener broke after the 4th can. I don't know how I opened the remaining 16 cans of tomatoes, but I'm pretty sure the red I was seeing was not spaghetti sauce.

AND THERE ARE NO CAN OPENERS ON PRIME DAY. I feel so betrayed.

I just saw a can opener on there a little while ago. I hate the way they release stuff to be bought. I can't figure out how to access the things I'm "watching".

jh715 · July 2016

I don't think I've ever post a reply before, but this is for @kimmiinthemitten

If you're doing a lot more spray painting, I'd consider getting one of these:

http://www.homedepot.com/catalog/productImages/400/aa/aa5cd545-8058-4f98-a1a5-c0f5bb0fc9ba_400.jpg

I used one for my spray paint intensive wedding projects (my handyman dad had a couple kicking around), and while somewhat frivolous, it was worth $7 in my mind.

kimmiinthemitten · July 2016

jvanderschaaf said:

I don't think I've ever post a reply before, but this is for @kimmiinthemitten
If you're doing a lot more spray painting, I'd consider getting one of these:
http://www.homedepot.com/catalog/productImages/400/aa/aa5cd545-8058-4f98-a1a5-c0f5bb0fc9ba_400.jpg
I used one for my spray paint intensive wedding projects (my handyman dad had a couple kicking around), and while somewhat frivolous, it was worth $7 in my mind.

That's awesome, thanks! I finished the table numbers last night but have a bunch of random bottles I'm going to paint just for additional decoration. I have to run to the Home Depot for some garden stuff today, that may have to be a purchase as well!

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