I don't know where to start I just need to know if anyone else has had similar issues and how the coped. I got engaged July 4th 2015. I have spent hundreds of hours making my wedding fun beautiful and cost effective. I am on a limited budget. I am three months out and I don't even feel excited because my parents are making me so upset. I will start with my father, he is a Vietnam vet and although he loves me an apathetic father. We don't talk much and he doesn't seem excited about my wedding and I am worried he doesn't want to walk me down the aisle. I am having a formal wedding party and cocktail or business casual guests. I have tried to discuss dress with my parents several times to deaf ears. He asked if he could wear jeans and I said no. I asked him to wear at least a suit. He told my mom I said khakis were okay which I didnt. I finally tried to compromise and told him he could wear dress slacks and a dress shirt that matches the wedding colors and tie. My dad is a large man and I just want him to get something acceptable ahead of time so I can see. I know I should be happy my dad is alive and coming but I don't understand why he can't be happy for me and suck it up for a few hours.
My mother has has been driving me crazy from day one. She started by buying random things that are orange just because they are orange and they don't fit style or theme at all. Or she found it at a yard sale or on clearance. Then she gets upset if I don't want. She is 64 and has been sensitive lately and refuses to discuss anything that might be disagreeable it's like she is in a constant state of denial. I love her very much and she bought my dress and her and my dad are supposed to help cover food. My wedding is out of town in a remote location nearest hotel is 30 minutes away. I am having late afternoon wedding and there will be alcohol. They threw a fit when I got an entree for 10.50 a head and got finger appetizers. They said I an getting too much food. I want people full and comfortable. I digress... I have explained the seating arrangements to my Mom and showed her excel sheet of guest list. She has seen venue and it is outdoor with round tables for dinner and can only seat four. She wanted to invite a couple friends which I said was fine and extended family I didn't want to but did because she said they wouldn't come. Now she has six friends coming. I only have 78 seats minus wedding party and immediate family there are roughly 30 left which is really 15 if they bring a date. I only have 8 seats open now with my mom's friends occupying 6 seats. I have met five of them only once. I am so stressed because I am afraid we are going to have people show up with no room for them thanks to my Mom. My fiance held off inviting some people and now he cant. My mom got mad and told me she would just bring a folding table or pull up chairs. She doesn't listen at all when I try to explain why that is not okay. I feel terrible we are fighting and couldn't sleep last night. Please give me some advice. Am I a terrible daughter.