Post wedding blues?

[Deleted User] · July 2016

Is anyone else having post wedding blues? I'm seriously missing my wedding day.

charlottesmom0626 · July 2016

It's normal. I went through it a little bit; not so much missing my wedding day- but the anticipation of a big event and the planning. All of a sudden I felt like I had nothing to look forward to; which was silly of course, but it was a valid feeling.

I deleted all of my Pinterest wedding pins/boards so those suggestions would stop showing up, and instead focused on pinning recipes, activities, home decor, clothes, etc.

I also drastically cut down on my visits to this site. I used to spend time on TK everyday, but I just couldn't for a while after the wedding.

Just know that you're not alone in those feelings, and try to focus on other things- maybe join a book club or volunteer some of your time?

bleve0821 · July 2016

I had blues, but I couldn't blame it on missing the wedding day. It was just that, after a year of planning and organizing and doing things for the wedding, I had a lack of something to occupy my thoughts and time in the same space. It did take me some time to figure that out, but once I picked up a few new hobbies and found ways to keep myself occupied, the feelings went away very quickly.

[Deleted User] · July 2016

@charlottesmom0626 & @AtomicBlonde Thanks for the kind words you two. I think it was a lot of planning and now theres nothing to plan, you just go back to living as you did before engagement only happier. I just feel blindsided by the entire thing, I didn't know or expect to feel sad about it. I think you're both right, I need to go find a new hobby now.

bleve0821 · July 2016

MrsPeacock2016 said:

@charlottesmom0626 & @AtomicBlonde Thanks for the kind words you two. I think it was a lot of planning and now theres nothing to plan, you just go back to living as you did before engagement only happier. I just feel blindsided by the entire thing, I didn't know or expect to feel sad about it. I think you're both right, I need to go find a new hobby now.

It came as quite a surprise to me, too, and for several weeks, I just felt kind of empty, like something was missing. I thought it would get better once the wedding photos came back, but that only proved that it wasn't nostalgia for the wedding, because I looked through them twice and the emptiness didn't go away. (It was, however, replaced with a lingering, nagging and irrational disappointment, because I didn't get a lot of the photos I wanted for a variety of reasons, mostly stemming from the weather, but what can you do, the ones we did get, I love, and, anyway, what would I really do with them if I had gotten 800 photos of the back of my head or the two of us blurred out "because perspective"?). I have no desire to order prints yet like I thought I would.

I am learning to crochet and knit and reading like a maniac. We're also in the process of relocating, so there's that elephantine distraction, too. I am constantly amazed at how I did manage to find so much time in a day to plan for the wedding, because I feel like I have a whole lot less of it now, without the new hobbies.

Just my extra two cents.

AddieCake · July 2016

Nope. We moved out of state 3 months later, so I was too busy preparing for that to have any blues about the wedding.

thisismynickname2 · July 2016

I know that's a very common feeling and you're not alone. I felt more relief though. I didn't feel like wedding planning was all that stressful, per se, because we used an all-inclusive venue; but that desire to put on a great event for our guests is a different kind of pressure. I'd been to some "meh" weddings in my day and I didn't want my guests to feel "meh." But everything went great and people said how much fun they had, so yay!

Get a new hobby or some new goals. We started long term planning for a new home and then started marathon training. It also helped that two of my best friends were also engaged, so I transitioned into helping them plan.

peachy13 · July 2016

I spent two years planning our wedding and the day itself ended up being my favorite day ever. I was kind of surprised that I didn't really feel the blues after, but instead I felt really relaxed and chilled out. I think going on a honeymoon the very next day helped just to unwind and relax. When I got back to reality though a week later, it kind of felt a little bit like "aw I want to go back." Two things that helped me though was journaling everything I could remember from the rehearsal dinner-honeymoon in a word doc that I can read every now and then to remember how I felt when it was fresh in my head. The other thing is our wedding video, which I have watched several times already.

MissKittyDanger · July 2016

I feel you on the blues! As everyone else said, you're use to something occupying your time.

Last August I got married, and after that I started studying for my G1 {learners permit for Americans} and joined a business of selling tea, and now we're in the midst of buying a house - so I've basically kept myself busy lol

holyguacamole79 · July 2016

AddieCake said:

Nope. We moved out of state 3 months later, so I was too busy preparing for that to have any blues about the wedding.

Likewise. (We didn't move, but I really didn't experience the emotions you're describing).

WinstonsGirl · July 2016

I was glad it was over. I felt pretty finished with the planning about a month or two before and have no desire to plan another wedding. We also started planning our HM, since we decided to take one shortly after, so maybe that helped?

thefanciestbeckler · July 2016

I personally felt relieved like some of the other PP's. But it is really common to feel sad or down for a while after the wedding. I'm sorry you're having a hard time! Others gave great advice about finding new hobbies, and it sounds like you have a good perspective on things. I hope it helps you feel better!

tigerlily6 · July 2016

Overall I've been super happy to be married, and that hasn't worn off yet. But going back into the same old humdrum routine immediately after (we haven't taken our honeymoon yet since I'm in the middle of a summer internship) did bring some blues. It has been really hard to find the motivation to get up and go to work the past three weeks, because I just really want to stay home and embrace all the FEELS of newlywed bliss that are still bottled up inside me. 14 more days and we are off to the Smokies, however, and I cannot wait.

Note to lurkers, if you are able, definitely take even just a day or two off after the wedding if you are able -- I really regretted not having that alone time with my new spouse to just indulge in the happiness and relax together before going back to work.

[Deleted User] · July 2016

Thanks for all the replies!! These are great. So far I only get a tiny bit sad when people ask about the wedding and the honeymoon (we had a 10 day vacation after both not having a vacation for 3 years straight!) Other than that I'm doing better. We just decided to buy a house since our apartment from hell's lease is expiring in september so that's our new project. My marriage certificate arrives in the mail today so that's also a positive to look forward to when I get home.

I'm going to be studying for my APLUS certification so I can assume a management position at my job. I hope everyone is having an awesome friday!

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