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Even if she wasn't planning her own wedding, your wedding wouldn't be as important to her as it is to you.
And yes, you are being ridiculous. It's not reasonable to expect people's lives to be on hold just because you are getting married. Of course she is going to prioritize her wedding over yours; frankly, it would be a little weird if she didn't. You chose to have an expensive destination wedding that people would need a lot of notice for, and you can't just assume that people's lives won't change over the course of a year. I suggest you keep your mouth shut and not discuss this with your MOH. Focus on the fact that she still cares enough about you to come to the wedding even when she's got a lot going on herself, and forget about the rest.
You're being ridiculous.
The things she initially agreed to do for you, while you might be a bit bummed about (i.e. not having a bachelorette anymore), are not the important things. Be happy that she is still able to attend your destination wedding while planning her own wedding and having a small child.
It sounds like you're upset and feel she is selfish for getting engaged, planning and having her wedding before yours. You each get one day. There is nothing wrong with a short engagement, she could choose to get married tomorrow, and that would be OK. Obviously she has a lot of planning and budgeting to do if she is getting married soon.
You say you are most bothered that she initially agreed to do some things, and has now had to change her mind- yes, her priorities have changed. A lot can change in a year and you can't expect anyone to put their lives on hold for a year to "wait" for your wedding. Paying for her own wedding definitely takes precedence over matching accessories and staying in the same hotel as everyone else. No one needs matching accessories, hotels do not need to be booked so early, and everyone can still have fun while staying at different hotels.
Deep breath, glass of wine, and let it go!
You're upset because she is spending more time/money on her wedding than yours. You're upset because she's planning her wedding reception instead of your bachelorette party. You say you've offered to help her in hopes she "comes around" (i.e. started dedicating more time/money to your wedding). Do you realize how absolutely ridiculous that all sounds?
This is MAJOR bridezilla territory. I suggest getting ahold of yourself and adjusting your expectations for your "wedding year". lol
OP - If you come back. The most important thing going on in your life right now is your wedding. No one will ever be as excited as you and your FI are for this wedding. Your MOH is now getting married herself. That and her child are probably the most important things going on her life, so her priorities have changed.
Give her a break. She never should have been looking for matching accessories for the BMs anyway. Let them accessorize their own outfits, they will be much happier to wear what they want, then something someone else picked out for them. I also hope these "matching accessories" were not to be the BM gifts, cause that is a really crappy gift, especially if they are traveling and putting out big bucks to attend your DW.
I hope you got some perspective, OP
Edited because @TrixieJess took the words right out of my mouth
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(The Emmy nods helped a lot, lol!)
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