Okay so this is a long story hopefully made shorter. My parents got divorced about two years ago. My father cheated and has moved on and my mom is still dealing with things. I am on good terms with both parents after a lot of discussions, anger, and resolving things. Both parents are over the moon about the engagement (he asked both of their blessings separately) and have been generally very supportive. (We have been engaged for a year and are 4 months away from the wedding). But recently, my mom has been finding small things to pick a fight over with me about the wedding, all leading up to a really dramatic argument a few weeks ago where she went totally crazy and screamed at me that she will not attend the wedding. It took me several days and a lot of talking and crying on both our parts to finally figure out that the reason she won't come is because she doesn't want to see my dad and his family. I am trying to be understanding and kind because she has been hurt so badly, but I really need my mom there. The kicker is that she is insisting on being a part of every little detail of planning and gets angry and cries when I do something (anything) without her. SO I feel like if I want to convince her to come, I have to include her in everything. But when I ask her opinion or bring her on appointments, she keeps saying "I don't care" and "whatever" and says that my wedding is too painful for her to be thinking about. Has anyone been in a similar situation or can give me advice on how to handle this? I want to be supportive and compassionate to her, but this is hurting me so deeply.