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Can't decide how many bridesmaids I want..

Knottie1471840554Knottie1471840554 member
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So I have 6 wonderful friends that are dear to me, but I'm not sure if I want all 6 standing behind me. My fiancé only wants 2 of his friends behind him. I have 2 of my friends that are for sure going to be behind me, but the rest, I'm just unsure.. should I just have all 6 behind me? It's not because it will be uneven, I'm just not sure if I want a big bridal party or not. These people will be invited to the wedding anyways, even if they are not in my party..
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    If you're unsure, I would say don't. A larger bridal party equals more costs and potentially more drama. 
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  • levioosalevioosa member
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    Pick the people you are closest to. 


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  • bleve0821bleve0821 member
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    Imagine the moment you walk down the aisle.  Who's standing there?  Pick those people and move on.  If you have to think long and hard about it and agonize over the decision, they probably aren't the right people to be standing up with you.


    "And when they use our atoms to make new lives, they won’t just be able to take one, they’ll have to take two, one of you and one of me..."
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    None of us can really answer this for you. It's such a personal choice. I will say, if you're unsure, just keep it small. 

    I decided to only have a MOH, and I'm happy I did. I have a close circle of women and we've all been best friends since high school (20+) years, but I preferred to not have a large bridal party. 
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  • vikinganna87vikinganna87 member
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    Knottie1471840554 said:
    So I have 6 wonderful friends that are dear to me, but I'm not sure if I want all 6 standing behind me. My fiancé only wants 2 of his friends behind him. I have 2 of my friends that are for sure going to be behind me, but the rest, I'm just unsure.. should I just have all 6 behind me? It's not because it will be uneven, I'm just not sure if I want a big bridal party or not. These people will be invited to the wedding anyways, even if they are not in my party..
    Agree with PPs.

    If I were you, I'd probably go with just those two.  But it doesn't need to be even on the bride and groom's side -- if , for example, you have four and he has two it really doesn't matter.
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  • lnixon8lnixon8 member
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    Agree with PP's to a point... if 4 of you ususally hang out but you just jive better with two of them the 4th girl might be hurt. It's a know your crowd thing, but that being said most people understand small wedding parties.


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  • thisismynickname2thisismynickname2 member
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    I had two that were absolutely no-brainers due to aforementioned logic (bury a body, can't imagine them not being there). I am close to several more ladies but just didn't want a big bridal party. So those two best friends and my sister, done. 
    Go with your gut! 
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  • MissKittyDangerMissKittyDanger member
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    WinstonsGirl said:
    Knottie1471840554 said:
    So I have 6 wonderful friends that are dear to me, but I'm not sure if I want all 6 standing behind me. My fiancé only wants 2 of his friends behind him. I have 2 of my friends that are for sure going to be behind me, but the rest, I'm just unsure.. should I just have all 6 behind me? It's not because it will be uneven, I'm just not sure if I want a big bridal party or not. These people will be invited to the wedding anyways, even if they are not in my party..
    Which of these 6 would you call to help you bury the body??  Pick those ones
    This! ^
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  • MCmeowMCmeow member
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    It all depends on you. Personally I think it has a little to do with how introverted or extroverted a person is. I have three, I think it's great having a small WP. Easier to get dresses, to get ready on the day on time, cheaper with the flowers, easier with the photographer shot list...
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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    WHY do you want six people standing behind you as you say your vows?  When I was a church organist, I charged extra for large wedding parties because they were always a pain in the butt.  Rehearsals took longer due to drama and meltdowns.  Keep it simple and you will be a happier bride.
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  • hellohkbhellohkb mod
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    Pick who you feel closest to and you want standing up there with you. I wound up with 7 bridesmaids- My sister, my two sisters in law, my aunt, my cousin, my best friend, and another good friend. I'm very close with all of them and loved having them in my wedding. Do what feels best for YOU.


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