Another Dear Abby wedding column

downtondiva · September 2016

I had to share this. I know what I think of Abby's advice, and I have a feeling I know what a lot of you will think, but fire away!

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/2016/9/4/1/feelings-are-hurt-by-wardrobe-request

lyndausvi · September 2016

Gross. I do not understand catering to these type of people. Why stop at colors? Gift an inch people will take a mile.

Little off topic, at last night's weddings there were 18 BM's. 3 of them wore green. The other 15 wore white. The dresses were all different. I'm assuming the bride let them pick their on style.

At some point the bride changed out of her gown into a white pant suit. I actually didn't even know she was the bride anymore it was so similar to some of the BMs (although a pant suit). It was only after she was passionately kissing the groom I figured out she was the bride. Out of all the weddings I've seen, this was the first time I couldn't tell who the bride was (only after she changed out of her gown).

ernursej · September 2016

I had a friend who recently got engaged and was throwing around ideas. She threw out about having a themed wedding where everyone in attendance would be in her wedding colours. I politely told her that she might be forcing some of her guests to purchase new attire or not attend. She quickly decided that was not a good idea!

SP29 · September 2016

Ugh! Seriously? The bridesmaids won't stand out? They'll be standing up at the altar, with bouquets, what else do you need to know they are the BMs?

Our colours were navy, plum and lavender. Blue and purple are pretty common colours, with navy as a neutral. I cannot imagine telling people "you can't wear my colours!".

monkeysip · September 2016

Fortunately, it seems a lot of the people replying agreed that the bride is being ridiculous. And many posters remarked about how brides (and grooms) should stop focusing so much on staging a production and focus more on the meaning of marriage.

Faith in humanity somewhat restored.

downtondiva · September 2016

Sounds like we are all on the same page! I cannot imagine asking guests to wear or not wear a particular color to my wedding. My main color was dark purple, and I couldn't have cared less whether anyone else did or didn't show up in it. People can be so superficial when a wedding is involved.

MairePoppy · September 2016

I never know what the wedding colors are before I show up.

artbyallie · September 2016

I have attended a wedding where a guest was actually wearing the exact same dress as the bridesmaids. I knew she wasn't a bridesmaid because, duh, she was sitting in a random pew and not standing up front.

CMGragain · September 2016

I would decline this wedding invitation.
Dear Abby (Pauline Phillips) passed away in 2013. Her daughter has carried on with her column under her old name, just like poor Emily Post (who must be rolling in her grave!)

theycallmelinz · September 2016

I'm glad that most of the commenters are on the right track.

A coworker of mine got married and actually demanded that all of her guests wear only white to the wedding. I'm not sure what colors she and the wedding party wore and if they matched or if they wore all black, but another coworker saw pictures and said that sure enough, all of the guests wore white.

Even if this is different from what we normally see, where people flip if you DO wear white to a wedding, I still wouldn't have gone to this because it required me buying a new outfit.

short+sassy · September 2016

theycallmelinz said:

I'm glad that most of the commenters are on the right track.

A coworker of mine got married and actually demanded that all of her guests wear only white to the wedding. I'm not sure what colors she and the wedding party wore and if they matched or if they wore all black, but another coworker saw pictures and said that sure enough, all of the guests wore white.

Even if this is different from what we normally see, where people flip if you DO wear white to a wedding, I still wouldn't have gone to this because it required me buying a new outfit.

YES! White is the worst color on me ever. It makes me look wan and sickly. I would never buy an all white anything, because I would hate it and never wear it. My OWN wedding dress wasn't totally white because of this. It had red embroidery interspersed in the bodice, hem, and back of the skirt.

So, yeah. If I didn't wear all white to my own wedding, I am certainly not wearing it to somebody else's.

And, although I'm personally picking on white, I'm sure we all have colors we don't like to wear.

DrillSergeantCat · September 2016

short+sassy said:
YES! White is the worst color on me ever. It makes me look wan and sickly. I would never buy an all white anything, because I would hate it and never wear it. My OWN wedding dress wasn't totally white because of this. It had red embroidery interspersed in the bodice, hem, and back of the skirt.
So, yeah. If I didn't wear all white to my own wedding, I am certainly not wearing it to somebody else's.
And, although I'm personally picking on white, I'm sure we all have colors we don't like to wear.

My ass is big enough without covering it in white. It conceals nothing and I don't necessarily like people seeing my hail damage.

I had to invite a friend to my wedding via FB messenger because he just got home from deployment and found out his wife left him and that's where I sent the invitation. He was excited and said that gave him an excuse to buy a suit. I told him that wasn't necessary. He then asked what the expected attire was. I just told him the ceremony is outdoors and to keep that in mind.

MissKittyDanger · September 2016

I've never been asked as a guest what to wear, but personally if I know the person's wedding colours I'll try to incorporate them into what I'm wearing. Like if the colour is blue, I know H has a beautiful blue tie and I may find something blue to wear.

Coworker got married this past weekend, and my coworkers and I opted to match with black and white theme, but I still wore a couple things with her colours.

monkeysip · September 2016

I saw some wedding photos on social media the other day, and it looked like a super casual, backyard kind of wedding (which is perfectly fine). But everyone was wearing white. I was like... did this couple really have a required clothing color to a casual backyard wedding? Good lord.

IrishPirate60 · September 2016

At a regular Saturday evening mass 15+ years ago, we celebrated a wedding and a first Communion. The first communicant wore a cute spring dress and so did the bridesmaid. Chosen independently. They did not know each other before Mass began. Pictures afterward were a wonderful experience. The bride and groom said they would always be reminded that their marriage was more than just the two of them, that surprises along the way we're meant to be shared.

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