Hey everyone, I need some advice on choosing a wedding to attend!
Two of my very good friends are getting married on the same day next year, and it is not possible to go to both as they are 6 hours apart.
I met them both at the same time (both are friends from grad school, although despite them both knowing each other, I am the only mutual guest at both weddings as they did not remain in contact after grad school). I immediately became friends with 'Friend A' and didn't really become close with 'Friend B' until almost a year later, at which time we became roommates for a year, which was obviously a bonding experience. Since graduating we all live in different states, but 'Friend A' and I have kept in contact with each other through frequent texting and making plans. 'Friend B' has been difficult to keep in touch with as she doesn't respond to texts of phone calls often, and has been really busy, but we have hung out a couple times along with our fiance's as we have all become friends with each other.
I think 'Friend A's wedding will be more fun as a bunch of our other great friends from grad school will also be there. My fiance will have less fun though as he is not close with any of them or their fiance's. My fiance prefers 'Friend B's wedding as he considers both the bride and groom friends as well, however we will not have any other friends at the wedding.
To complicate matters I am also getting married next December and am in the process of choosing bridesmaids, and both of these girls are people I'm considering asking. I don't have a ton of close girlfriends, and my wedding party is only 3 people. I am not in either of their wedding parties, but regardless of my decision on which wedding to attend 'Friend A' still wants me to attend her bachelorette party, and I have no idea about my involvement in any of 'Friend B's activities at this time.
SO - can I have both girls in my bridal party but only attend one of their weddings?? and how do I choose which wedding to attend??
This is really stressing me out because I love them both and obviously want to attend both weddings, and I don't want to offend anyone. I know 'Friend A' won't be offended, but has really expressed her desire for me to attend her wedding, and 'Friend B' has also said she understands if I go to the other wedding, but I have no idea of her actual feelings if she would feel hurt or not. Obviously this all shows I have been way more in touch with 'Friend A' but I don't want to lose a bond with 'Friend B'. I'd appreciate any honest advice or tips on deciding! Thanks!!