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Post-Wedding: Ask Guest if "Bought" Gift Wasn't Received?

CaitFinsCaitFins member
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Hello, all! I'm married!!

So, to the chase: We had a few select gifts that were labeled as bought on Amazon and listed the purchaser, which we did not receive with other gifts they gave or sent us. One was worth $40, so I'm rather particularly concerned for that gift-giver - although her other gifts were given in person, so I would think it's less likely that it was lost in the mail in transit to us.

What did you do or what should I do? Should I somehow ask them? Would sending them a thank you note that specifically indicated the other gifts but not this one be enough to let them know? It's been four weeks since the wedding now, and these products were not labeled as needing much time to be delivered.

I obviously don't want to come off as gift-grabby, but I know that I haven't heard one way or another about an (expensive) gift before, and I hope it wasn't lost and not mentioned to me!




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Re: Post-Wedding: Ask Guest if "Bought" Gift Wasn't Received?

  • ILoveBeachMusicILoveBeachMusic member
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    I would send a thank you note for the gifts you received and specifically mention them. Hopefully the gift givers will realize you didn't receive the "missing gift" and ask you about it. Then they could follow up with store. A similar thing happened to me recently. I received a thank you note that listed some of the gifts but not another. I contacted the groom He told me it had arrived but they didn't know who sent it - I guess the store forgot to write my message on the packing slip.
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  • bleve0821bleve0821 member
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    I would call Amazon to confirm delivery/delivery address.  The individual may have had it shipped to his/her own personal address.

    We had one guest purchase a number of items off our Amazon registry, but did not receive them in a timely manner after I was aware of the purchase.  I actually called Amazon to confirm the delivery (rather than reaching out to the guest).  In this instance, they were able to tell me the gifts had been delivered to the guest's address rather than shipped directly to us.

    We received the gifts in the mail several months later, but until I called Amazon, I was a little concerned that the items had been lost.


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  • DrillSergeantCatDrillSergeantCat member
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    I actually purchased a gift off someone's registry for myself once. Could it be that they just really liked something on your registry and bought it for themselves?
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    DrillSergeantCat said:
    I actually purchased a gift off someone's registry for myself once. Could it be that they just really liked something on your registry and bought it for themselves?
    Why wouldn't you just buy it for yourself NOT off of their registry? By purchasing from the registry it means that it gets marked as purchased and therefore no other guests are likely to buy it for the couple. Kinda screws up the whole point of the system. 
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  • STARMOON44STARMOON44 member
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    Ironring said:
    DrillSergeantCat said:
    I actually purchased a gift off someone's registry for myself once. Could it be that they just really liked something on your registry and bought it for themselves?
    Why wouldn't you just buy it for yourself NOT off of their registry? By purchasing from the registry it means that it gets marked as purchased and therefore no other guests are likely to buy it for the couple. Kinda screws up the whole point of the system. 
    I assumed it was accidental. 
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  • DrillSergeantCatDrillSergeantCat member
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    STARMOON44 said:
    Ironring said:
    DrillSergeantCat said:
    I actually purchased a gift off someone's registry for myself once. Could it be that they just really liked something on your registry and bought it for themselves?
    Why wouldn't you just buy it for yourself NOT off of their registry? By purchasing from the registry it means that it gets marked as purchased and therefore no other guests are likely to buy it for the couple. Kinda screws up the whole point of the system. 
    I assumed it was accidental. 
    It was. We had already picked up their gift and fell in love with this tiny pair of shoes that was on there and when we went to check out, forgot to tell the cashier that they weren't to come off the registry. 
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    ......ok, I understand that then. 
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  • CaitFinsCaitFins member
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    I actually purchased a gift off someone's registry for myself once. Could it be that they just really liked something on your registry and bought it for themselves?


    Right, that was my concern. I know one of my guests bought two of a gift they gave me (I only asked for one), so I'm sure they kept the other - great for them! I am concerned that statistically at least one of the four-odd gifts that we didn't receive were, in fact, meant for us. I would recommend making sure not to take it off the registry unless you've bought it as a gift for them as well!  ;)


    ETA: Quote to clarify response.




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