Crafty or Tacky?

Re: Crafty or Tacky?

• [Deleted User] member

  

  September 2016

  Recommendation: take 3 minutes and search "honeyfund" or "honeymoon fund" on this forum and you will find all of the opinions you need. Before actually signing up for this, read every thread about it. You won't find a positive one. 
  I suggest rethinking this. 

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• glasgowtolondon member

  

  September 2016

  kkennalane said:

  We don't need stuff! My fiance and I have had several family members gift furniture, household items, appliances, etc. Need less to say, we don't have a whole lot to put on our registry. 
  
  We have instead signed up for a Honeyfund account. If you're not familiar, its a social media medium where guests can purchase experiences while you and your loved one enjoy your honeymoon, instead of a wrapped gift. This seems like the perfect option for us! However, i have mentioned it as an option to many of my more traditional family members and the majority of them are either confused or opposed. Although we do value their opinion, the majority of our guests are more around our age. this seems like the perfect compromise; we register for some wrapped gifts for the more traditional guests, and have the online option, featuring Honeyfund, for our more  tech-saavy guests. 
  
  What are your thoughts?
  Crafty or Tacky?

  Your guests know how to gift you money, it's tacky AF to ask them for it.
  
  
  

               

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• WinstonsGirl member

  

  September 2016

  Tacky.  Plus it takes some of the money you would have got anyway.  Whenever I see a honey fund I deliberately give a boxed gift

  
  

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• crowsgirl15 member

  

  September 2016

  kkennalane said:

  We don't need stuff! My fiance and I have had several family members gift furniture, household items, appliances, etc. Need less to say, we don't have a whole lot to put on our registry. 
  
  We have instead signed up for a Honeyfund account. If you're not familiar, its a social media medium where guests can purchase experiences while you and your loved one enjoy your honeymoon, instead of a wrapped gift. This seems like the perfect option for us! However, i have mentioned it as an option to many of my more traditional family members and the majority of them are either confused or opposed. Although we do value their opinion, the majority of our guests are more around our age. this seems like the perfect compromise; we register for some wrapped gifts for the more traditional guests, and have the online option, featuring Honeyfund, for our more  tech-saavy guests. 
  
  What are your thoughts?
  Crafty or Tacky?

  Incredibly tacky. If you just don't register, you will receive plenty of money. Hell, even if you do register, you will receive plenty of money. You don't need to ask for it.
  
  I was just in a wedding a few months ago. They had a fairly large, regular registry and about 150 guests. They received upwards of $10K (it may have been almost double that, actually, but I don't know the exact number). Though the amount they received may be higher than average, people are going to give you money, it's a common wedding gift.
  
  You also don't need to be "traditional" to know that asking for money is rude. It's rude. Simple as that. I am in my 20s, as are many people on this board, and we all know it's rude. It isn't an age issue, it's a common sense issue.

  
  
  

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• kimmiinthemitten member

  

  September 2016

  Tacky. Decline a shower and if people ask saying you're saving up for xyz. They know how to write a check, they don't need to be charged a handlers fee to provide you with a gift. 

  
  

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• lovesclimbing member

  

  September 2016

  I'm in my 20s and I think it's tacky. 

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• CMGragain member

  

  September 2016 edited September 2016

  I can guarantee you that at least some of your guests will think your honeyfund is horribly tacky.  Do you want that?
  Honeyfunds are like asking for money.  When I was a bride, we couldn't afford a big honeymoon, so we went on a two day mini-moon.  Our first big trip was on our 25th wedding anniversary, and it was worth the wait.
  Have the honeymoon that you can afford without asking your guests to pay for it.
  

  

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• banana468 member

  

  September 2016

  Not a fan.    I'll give cash over contributing to a honeyfund.  

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• STARMOON44 member

  

  September 2016

  Tacky. I'm young. I hate them. I don't need any instructions on how to give you cash. 

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• MobKaz member

  

  September 2016

  glasgowtolondon said:

  kkennalane said:

  We don't need stuff! My fiance and I have had several family members gift furniture, household items, appliances, etc. Need less to say, we don't have a whole lot to put on our registry. 
  
  We have instead signed up for a Honeyfund account. If you're not familiar, its a social media medium where guests can purchase experiences while you and your loved one enjoy your honeymoon, instead of a wrapped gift. This seems like the perfect option for us! However, i have mentioned it as an option to many of my more traditional family members and the majority of them are either confused or opposed. Although we do value their opinion, the majority of our guests are more around our age. this seems like the perfect compromise; we register for some wrapped gifts for the more traditional guests, and have the online option, featuring Honeyfund, for our more  tech-saavy guests. 
  
  What are your thoughts?
  Crafty or Tacky?

  Your guests know how to gift you money, it's tacky AF to ask them for it.
  
  
  

  Tacky has no age boundary.  People of all ages know tacky/rude when they see it.  I have to ask, however, why you would even mention it to your family and friends.  I might register for gifts, but I don't follow that up with mentioning the registry to my family unless directly asked.  When these people said they were confused or opposed, did it ever dawn on you to ask why?
  
  I'm fairly tech savvy, but I am also aware of manners.  I am both tech savvy and anti tacky. 
  

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• climbingsingle member

  

  September 2016

  It's tacky, and it will always be tacky. 

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• photokitty mod

  

  September 2016

  So more tech savvy people enjoy paying extra fees...hmmm, I didn't know that. That's pretty stupid of them.
  
  As for your other guests, They are opposed bc it's rude, not just tacky. 

  ~xoxo~

  
  

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• ei34 member

  

  September 2016 edited September 2016

  Tacky.  Guests who want to give you cash know how to do that.
  
  And why was "crafty" one of the adjectives?  Shouldn't it have been "clever or tacky?" or "acceptable or tacky?".  A honeyfund is neither clever nor acceptable, but crafty sounds like you came up with an original idea or something outside the box and unique.
  
  ETA spelling 

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• Heffalump member

  

  September 2016

  1. "We don't need stuff."  Well, you don't need other people's money, either.  A gift is something freely given, not an obligation.

  2. You don't have to be "tech savvy" to write a check.  My 100-year-old grandmother has been sending me birthday checks since I outgrew Barbie dolls. If people choose to give you money, they know how to do so.

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  kkennalane said:

  If you're not familiar, its a social media medium

  
   

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• WinstonsGirl member

  

  September 2016

  MobKaz said:

  glasgowtolondon said:

  kkennalane said:

  We don't need stuff! My fiance and I have had several family members gift furniture, household items, appliances, etc. Need less to say, we don't have a whole lot to put on our registry. 
  
  We have instead signed up for a Honeyfund account. If you're not familiar, its a social media medium where guests can purchase experiences while you and your loved one enjoy your honeymoon, instead of a wrapped gift. This seems like the perfect option for us! However, i have mentioned it as an option to many of my more traditional family members and the majority of them are either confused or opposed. Although we do value their opinion, the majority of our guests are more around our age. this seems like the perfect compromise; we register for some wrapped gifts for the more traditional guests, and have the online option, featuring Honeyfund, for our more  tech-saavy guests. 
  
  What are your thoughts?
  Crafty or Tacky?

  Your guests know how to gift you money, it's tacky AF to ask them for it.
  
  
  

  Tacky has no age boundary.  People of all ages know tacky/rude when they see it.  I have to ask, however, why you would even mention it to your family and friends.  I might register for gifts, but I don't follow that up with mentioning the registry to my family unless directly asked.  When these people said they were confused or opposed, did it ever dawn on you to ask why?
  
  I'm fairly tech savvy, but I am also aware of manners.  I am both tech savvy and anti tacky. 
  

  
  
  "Confused" is my standard go to for I think this is a shitty idea but don't want to offed the person, so maybe by acting confused they'll reconsider their idea

  
  

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• CharmedPam member

  

  September 2016

  kkennalane said:

  
  We have instead signed up for a Honeyfund account. If you're not familiar, its a social media medium where guests can purchase experiences while you and your loved one enjoy your honeymoon, instead of a wrapped gift. 

  ooooh, we're familiar with them.

  
  

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• OliveOilsMom member

  

  September 2016

  Some of your guests are already telling you its tacky.  Who cares what age bracket they fall into.  These people are your guests and supposedly people you very much care about.

  It's also hella rude and shady because these "experiences" you are supposedly registering for, come in the form of a check, minus the fee, with no actual experience booked.  It's deceptive to your guests.

  Do you like paying taxes on something that you don't have to pay taxes on?  Because as it stands now, you will be paying a tax on all of the money your guests give you through your honeyfund.  However, if you don't register at all, you will get 100% of the money your guest gift you individually with either a cash, check, or gift card.

  Add me to the list of people who vote tacky.

  

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• kylexo member

  

  September 2016

  if i'd done a honeyfund i would have lost over $600 to fees based on what i was given in cash and checks. people know cash in king. if you don't want things, forgo a registry and honey fund and people will put 2 and 2 together. don't insult your friends and family and don't pay unnecessary fees.

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• DrillSergeantCat member

  

  September 2016

  kkennalane said:

  If you're not familiar, its a social media medium where guests can purchase experiences while you and your loved one enjoy your honeymoon, instead of a wrapped gift. 
  
  

  We apparently know more about this than you do because that's not how that works. Your guests aren't "purchasing experiences" for you. They're giving you cash. Oh and honeyfund takes a percentage of that cash out of their gift. So your guests are being told they're buying you a fabulous couples massage for $120, but in reality they're giving you a $114 check because honeyfund kept 5% of their gift.

  

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• charlottesmom0626 member

  

  September 2016

  common y'all this has to be a troll. How many times a day does someone shit on a honeyfund? 

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• glasgowtolondon member

  

  September 2016

  I think either someone looking for a little drama or someone writing an article.

               

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• geebee908 member

  

  September 2016

  She does make it sound like she's stumbled upon this brand new thing that hasn't come into popular knowledge yet, but she doesn't appear to know that the couple doesn't get the actual experiences and the company takes a cut of the gift.
  
  If it wasn't rude to begin with, who in their right mind financially would think it was smart to let a company take a portion of the cash when your guests can give you the whole amount directly.
  

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• justsie member

  

  September 2016

  I agree with @glasgowtolondon, if it had a specific honeyfund website mentioned I would think this was a vendor. It is just written way to weird to not be some type of troll or someone looking to write an article. 

  

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• SP29 member

  

  September 2016

  This is a weird post because we discuss this topic regularly.
  
  Tacky.
  

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• MyNameIsNot member

  

  October 2016

  If by crafty you mean a sneaky way to trick people into giving you cash, sure. 
  
  Also, rude AF and dishonest. Gross. 

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• MCmeow member

  

  October 2016

  Hey you know what's the new hip thing to do? Not telling people how to give you money. All the cool people are using checkbooks and putting the check in the card. All the hipsters do it, its vintage.
  
  ...did that work...?

  

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• levioosa member

  

  October 2016

  Tacky and rude AF. Under 30 speaking here...age has nothing to do with the fact that it's rude.  

  
  

  
  

  

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• drunkenwitch member

  

  October 2016

  My cynical side thinks this is poorly veiled attempt to promote Honeyfund on a wedding forum that forbids vendors.

  

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