Here's my dilemma. My FI and I are going to be married in the UK (it's where we live currently). Everything is arranged. Since it's so far away only immediate family and close friends are going to be invited (save the dates were sent a few months ago).
Recently, I've found out that my mother's arranging a bridal shower back in the US and bit by bit her plans have been shared with me. All her cousins and friends are coming. It's going to be fairly large (100+ people) with both women and men. I had told her I didn't mind having a bridal shower (because she wanted me to have one), but that I would then be expected to invite those people to the wedding and that I didn't feel comfortable 1) asking them to travel so far with the expense 2) my FI and I can't afford/fit 100+ people in the venue we've chosen...
So now a bunch of people are invited to my bridal shower, but not the wedding. Oh and also it seems like this bridal shower will be more like a wedding reception. There's going to have just about everything that you'd expect at a reception, but the music.
It seems like I should have just given in at the beginning and had the wedding in the US - letting her plan everything while I was abroad.