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DEAR ABBY: I’m 42, and the mother of three children. I love my kids, but after many years of wanting to do something about my “mommy belly,” I decided to have a tummy tuck. As a woman of color, my preference was for a sculpted, curvy shape.

For aesthetic reasons, I liked the work being done in a certain foreign country. That it was cheaper there was an added plus.

After months of researching, I settled on a board-certified doctor. His before and after pictures were great, and I was told that he and the clinic had a “zero percent infection rate.”

Two weeks after I returned home, things quickly went bad. Fluid drained from my tummy tuck and belly button incisions. A local plastic surgeon sent me immediately to an emergency room.

At the ER, my fever was 102 and I was admitted to the hospital, where I was diagnosed with mycobacterium abscessus infection. I was hospitalized for 11 days and had surgery to manually clear the infection from my abdomen. I was sent home with a PICC line so I could continue receiving my IV meds at home.

Two months after my elective surgery, I cannot stand up straight due to the pain. The experience has been awful, and it’s still far from over. I’m still on IV antibiotics, have daily nursing visits, multiple visits to the ER and have had multiple surgeries.

I won’t be able to work for three to six months, and my medical bills are over $100,000. (Thank goodness I have health insurance!) The side effects of the meds I’m on are nausea, diarrhea, lack of appetite and drowsiness.

It’s hard for me to take care of myself or my children. I feel guilty about the pain I’m causing my family, and I’m so depressed I don’t like going places and have withdrawn from those closest to me.

I know infections are a risk with any surgical procedure and this could have happened in America, but the fact is, this infection is known to be caused by poor sterilization in the OR, and this should have been avoidable if the proper sterilization procedures were followed.

When I contacted the doctor who did my surgery, he denied that I got it from him. He offered to repair any cosmetic damage, but I’d be crazy to go back there for additional procedures.

He’s in no way accountable, and the system over there promotes that. As an American, I have no recourse. I’m just stuck here suffering.

I know others may have had wonderful experiences, but I want to shed light on life after surgery abroad that went wrong. I also want to encourage others to make sure they plan for the worst-case scenario: Consider who will provide extended care to your kids during periods of hospitalization, how you will pay your astronomical medical bills, and whether you can afford living on reduced or no income for the duration of treatment, which can be several months. Thanks for printing this, Abby. — LESSON LEARNED

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  • Heffalump said:

    Wow.  I feel so badly for her, and yet it also feels like a textbook case of "If it seems to be too good to be true..."

    DH is cheap, and some of his cheapness has rubbed off on me.  (I drove the Honda to Mom's yesterday and saw that it's closing in on 240,000 miles!)  But if there is one place I wouldn't even try to cut corners, it's got to be surgery.

    I'm getting same feeling. Also, are doctors allowed to say "zero percent infection rate" ? It really depends on the person, after care, etc ...
  • While I do feel for the LW, she did this to herself.  I wish she had enough self-esteem to have embraced her post-baby body.  I don't even know why she thinks the doctor would hold himself accountable.  If the country does not hold the doctor's accountable, why would the doctor himself consider he is the source of her infection?  She should have done further research on the country, in addition to the research she did on the doctor.

    I'm also with Heffa, if there was anywhere I would not cut corners, it would be on surgery!  It would have been one thing if a medical emergency occurred while traveling overseas, but its a whole other thing to electively receive surgery abroad.
  • As a fan of Botched on E!, I would never, ever, not in a million years go out of the country for surgery. I've seen too many horror stories on there and they all go pretty much exactly like this story.

    I had a mommy makeover (minus the vaginoplasty) 10 years ago and I'm glad I did. I'm currently counting down the days until I can get another breast lift or reduction. 
  • tawillers said:
    Apparently she's never seen "Botched."


    If @hmonkey were still here, this could be its own thread. :)

  • kvruns said:
    Do other countries have "board certified"? I assumed it was just a US thing. I guess it depends on what country it was and what kind of medical board there is (I'm sure most countries have an equivalent). Not to mention I wouldn't believe the "0 infection rate" thing. 

    That phrase caught my eye also ;).  Is it purposely a U.S. phrase?  Or is that what it is called also in whatever country that is?

    Also, I don't really know what "board certified" entails for my own country.  I could hardly guess what it means for another country.

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  • Well, now she knows why he says he has 0 incidents of infection, he denies them all!

    And this is why you don't visit doctors who offer BOGO deals on boobs.
    lmao .... bogo boobs :')
  • Did anyone ever see that King of Queen episode where the main character buys his wife Lasik for her birthday?  He lies and tells her he used his friend's doctor, but really he used a "two for one eye" coupon he found for a random surgeon.  Wife had to redo the surgery.  It was a hilarious episode.

    Near my house there are always signs on the freeway exits--"Breast augmentation--only $500!"  Nope.  All of the nopes. 


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  • I'm going to toss this out there because I have to get a tummy tuck done to repair a severe diastasis recti (i.e. my belly looks like I'm 8.5mo along because the connective tissue between my abs split 6-8 inches and will never return together without surgical intervention.  

    On so many levels the LW did NOT do her Due Diligence!  The recovery time is 6-8 weeks to functional, 6mo to standing straight (with the help from physical therapy), and a full 12 months to get fully recovered and back to "normal" (and wearing a compression belly wrap until it's healed completely)..  The infection risk is there even if the surgery was done in the US.  Also, the procedure is not that spendy here in the US, it can actually be pretty affordable as far as the procedure goes.  While the infection risk is one of my greatest fears, having done my due diligence on the procedure, SNS, the LW is a bit at fault for not having really asked the recovery time to plan for with the procedure along with complication risks IRL, not a fancy website to swoon her to travel overseas for major surgery!
  • kvruns said:
    Do other countries have "board certified"? I assumed it was just a US thing. I guess it depends on what country it was and what kind of medical board there is (I'm sure most countries have an equivalent). Not to mention I wouldn't believe the "0 infection rate" thing. 
    We are College of Physicians certified up here. You get your license and pay your dues to the College up here. Any complaints go through the College. 
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