Dear Prudence,
I hate my brother’s wife. I have a perfectly good reason for this: She told my friends, boss, and everyone at the place I volunteer at that I had an STI for no reason I can perceive. (It wasn’t true, but even if it had been, that wouldn’t have been any of her, or their, business.) Obviously I will need to get over it eventually if she stays with the family. However, this came to a head last month and Christmas is coming up, when the whole clan gets together. I just can’t do it. Maybe next year I will have cooled down enough for frosty silence, but this year all it will take is one smirk from her for me to lose it. So do I have to tell my family (some know, some don’t) why I am skipping, leading to them picking sides one way or the other, or just lie that I am sick and leave it to my brother to tell them if he feels it necessary?
—I’d Rather Deck You Than the Halls