Hi Ladies & Gents,
I am so glad they have a board for stuff like this because i'm having a really hard time finding info anywhere else... Soo... my fiance and i are getting married Nov, 2017. This will be my 2nd marriage, his 1st. Bottom line, the 1st time i was young, dumb and obviously didn't know my ex as well as i thought i did. He was a liar, cheater, blah blah blah.. Luckily, there were no kids involved, and we weren't married very long... (we did, however have a pretty big and expensive wedding)
I am so excited to be in love for the right reasons this time and a truly good relationship really does make me wonder what the heck i was thinking the 1st time around...
I guess my questions are... what exactly is the etiquette for a second wedding? He wants a big wedding and i feel like he should be able to have that since it IS his first (we are paying for this wedding 100% )... His family is soo welcoming to me and they love me regardless of my past... My family on the other hand is a pretty good bit more judgemental and opinionated.
We have gotten as far as deciding to invite all of our favorite friends, most of his family and a VERY select few of my family. I was even thinking i could send out separate invites to them (sometime like 'it's never too late for happily ever after')
Since i've been divorced, can we still get married in a church if we would decide to? (methodist)
Can i tell the people from my side who was involved in my 1st wedding to not bring gifts if they decide to come? Should i even invite them to the ceremony? (by the time my 2nd wedding takes place, it will be 7 years since the 1st one happened)
I am soo excited to marry the man that i love more than anything in this world, and i'm so excited to plan this wedding, i just feel like there is a dark cloud that is my past divorce looking over my head...
Anyone in a similar situation like this. If so, what did you do?
Thanks soooo much in advance for the advice!