Friend told me about a wedding this weekend:
- Couple told everyone they were eloping and getting married in foreign country, just the two of them.
- Couple sent out invites months in advance to their "wedding reception" which was going to take place right before they left to get married.
- Invites specifically mentioned not to bring gifts.
- People who chose to attend this pre-wedding reception get told once they're there that SURPRISE! It's a wedding!
- Couple gets married right there.
His thoughts are:
- "No gifts" in the invite is good because it let people know they weren't required to bring gifts. And that YES being invited to a wedding reception means gifts are required.
- Just because there's no actual wedding ceremony doesn't mean the invitatiosn weren't for a wedding.
- That if people chose not to come to the only wedding related event (the pre-reception) that the couple was having, they must not care enough about the couple and therefore shouldn't be upset they missed the wedding
- That the fun of the surprise made some people very happy which cancels out making some guests unhappy
- Initially they really were going to elope so it's not exactly lying to guests.