First question is if bride and groom get equal invites even if the bride's family is paying for the whole wedding. Is there any rule on this or do you just have to hash it out according to circumstances? My parents are very social and have a lot of friends they want to invite (and my mom is one of 8). FI has been a little iffy about the amount of people they want to invite and thinks rule of thumb is equal invites.
Second question is whether it is a major etiquette breach to order some digital-printed invitations and some letter press. My stationaire prints in increments of 25. My parents and I would like to send letter press invites. FI's family, however, has requested that invites be sent as a formality to some family members they do not think will come (I know that I have to anticipate that they will come regardless), but their additions bring our invitations number to just over 125 (about 130), meaning I would need to order an additional 25 and they aren't cheap. What if I ordered the last 25 in digital to save some money?
I realize I may be sounding really bratty and you all can tell it like it is. Maybe the answer is to just not send courtesy invites; I would like to say to FI's family that we can't accommodate all the people they want to invite, but then there is the issue of my parents' extensive guest list.